Diaper Bulge

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@wetdad I'm sure that many of us know what you mean by the half moon's of shame. Cheers Phil

 

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I thought they were called "Moon's of Doom"!

 

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I think the truth is that the average person isn't paying attention to whether or not someone might be wearing a diaper or some form of protection.

Those of us who do wear are just hyper sensitive to things like a bulge or a crinkle and are more in tune to the signs. I'd say for the most part, much of the anxiety is in our own head.

 

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I have come to realize I no longer care about the bulge. I do get my pants and short a size larger to minimize it. I don't go out of my way to make it noticeable but Sunday night my partners widow called my wife and asked if we could go to our Walmart and get her daughter a Xbox as they were in stock in our town. I was on the front porch enjoying my cigar and a second bourbon so my wife drove to Walmart and I went in to get it.
Not thinking about the fact I was wearing a pair of basketball shorts and could hear my diaper ( a Rearz) crinkling when I passed a mirror I took a look and the bulge was very visible. I though to my self oh well and continued on. It made me realize I really don't worry about it anymore.

On a good note we were able to get her the Xbox.

 

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Well @MarineJohn, it was a successful trip, then! And it's good you're comfortable with your situation enough to realize that the bulge really isn't worth worrying about. Not much you could do at that point anyway! After all, every other person in that Wal-Mart was concentrating on their own reasons for being there and most likely they just wanted to find what they were looking for, get it and just get on out of there! And that would be me!

 

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I think we're much more paranoid about the diaper bulge being visible than we should be. I get concerned about it with some clothes, but my wife invariably tells me that she can't even see it.

Try this: try to spot someone else who's definitely wearing a diaper. Incontinence is a common problem, but I don't think I've ever seen somebody in a store that I could definitely tell was wearing a diaper. There have been a few people that I've thought might be, but it was impossible to really tell. The point of the exercise is to realize that, even with incontinence being so common that every grocery store and pharmacy sells incontinence products, you can't tell even when you are looking for it and know exactly what to look for. If you can't tell with other people, it's fair to say that they can't tell with you, either.

And no, I'm really not some creep who goes around starting at other people's butts!

 

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Furthermore I think we are our own worse enemies. We think everyone is staring at us when in reality they are too self absorbed in their own tasks/life etc that they don’t even notice anything really.

If we are amped up about thinking everyone sees or is hearing the crinkling we are primed to assume everyone is watching us. When in actual fact they are not. They don’t notice the bulge or the sounds. They are worried if they have enough time to stop at the grocery store on the way home.

Like Itapilot stated above. For how common incontinence products are you think it would be much more visible then it is. However I think it’s when one starts wearing one is super sensitive to everything and that is what the actual problem is. They just have to get use to the new normal.

Again we are our own worst enemies.

 

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I've only once noticed someone who I could tell was wearing protection and it was a larger woman who was wearing tight white pants that were semi see through, but exactly that, no one is going to look for it and also more importantly if they notice so what. If someone is going to judge you for that then they aren't someone you should want to associate with anyways

 

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Hey @greengold4, right on!!! I totally agree that if someone judges you solely by the type of underwear you need (or as that person perceives you) then you don't want anything to do with them anyway! Chances are also excellent you probably won't ever see them again, so no big loss!!!!

 

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@greengold4 people like that are judging you on what you are wearing underneath are hiding themselves something, are insecure and they need to usually pick on someone. Those people are the one's with the real issues! You don't need anyone like that as a friend.

 

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At the end of the day, we just have to accept ourselves for who we are, live our life, and not worry about those who will judge and shame us. We can choose not to live with those feelings. Let them deal with their discomfort, that is their problems.

Also don't forget, regular underwear are just very thin diapers. Why would we wear underwear, if not to protect the rest of our clothes from our digestive systems.

 

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@Mightychi Soo true Mightychi!, it's better not to engage with people like that, life is too short to be bitter and judgemental all the time.

 

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Yes. The thought of underwear being a thin diaper is great observation. At some level we all need protection.

 

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I have mixed reactions also. I’ve used Abena for years, but for the last 6 months or so I’ve use better dry. They have great absorbency but yes they do bulge a good bit in the front. Fortunately I really don’t care about it but it is definitely noticeable. Almost as big as the bulge my cloth diapers with plastic pants make when I wear them during the day. I only wear cloth during the day when I make the mistake of running out of my disposables.

 

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I control the diaper bulge by wearing shapewear over my diaper and it drastically reduces diaper bulge in the front and rear, plus virtually eliminates diaper sag. Provides a lot of support. I too wear betterdrys and rearz, both of which are very bulky but super absorbent.