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My friends having a sleepover this week and I’m wanting to know if it’s a good idea that I go or not. Obviously I’m still having accindets, and this friend doesn’t know about my incontinence. My grandma doesn’t think it’s a good idea, but left it up to me.

Has anyone here had to hide there incontinence at events or sleepovers and how did that go?
 
I sympathize with your plight. There is no easy answer. on one hand, you should live your life and on the other you risk being embarrassed. I recently, had my prostrate gland removed because of cancer about a week and 1/2 ago. I am staying close to home.

The only answer I can see is to wear depends with pads for the night. Good luck!
 
When I hear about young people having to deal with incontinence so early in life, I feel less sorry for myself. Mine started after 60. It is easy for me to say, but I would suggest you have a long life to live with a medical condition. You should talk confidentially with your friend and explain your situation. If they are a good friend who you will have a relationship with for the rest of your life, be open and honest. I have only started trying to do that, but trusting a few people so far, has been far better than trying to disguise it. Good luck and stay positive.
 
Where your inconvenience product you feel comfortable wearing. Use a larger size boxer short to go over it. Also the longest tea shirt. I invested in a few extra tall tea shirts when traveling. Hides most of the boxer shorts. Put on on right before you go to bed and change in the bathroom.It is tough when you are young versed me being in my early 60’s. Enjoy have fun.
 
Also try to avoid if possible soft drinks and energy drinks as much as possible. They may trigger urination at night and your urine may smell. Drinking water does give off a strong urine smell verses some of the soft drinks.
 
Inform the person in charge of your issue. They will take necessary steps to ensure your secret is confidential. When I was going to a sleepover, I had the same concern. Found out I wasn't the only bedwetter there. Out of 7 boys, three bedwetting. We were all around 12-13 at that time
 
Clayton
Remember IF you go to take a zip lock bag for disposable underwear when they are used and try to take to the trash with out making a thing about it.
If you can't take to trash have a Ziploc bag and a grocery store bag to take used underwear home to throw away
put it in your overnight bag


I would also consider the actual "friends" who are going to be there.
Friends are not always people we know well.
I have not accepted invitations to asleep overs in highschool because I wasn't comfortable with the level of friendship or trust I would not be gossiped about.
With "friends" it often better to be less available so they look forward to seeing you and getting to know you genuine ones will.
It's good to leave them WANTING more of your company.

It is perfectly alright to say thanks but my Grandmother (or family isn't letting me go out. Or, I'm grounded.

(I'm grounded is a technique that is very useful to get out of situations you aren't into by the way)
 
Hard to say one way or the other. Not knowing how old you are or the system you rely on normally to protect your bed or even yourself? If a product like good nights would work I’m not sure why you can’t make that work. As a teenager I avoided sleepovers as I had nightly “accidents” and wore protection. I tried a sleepover when I was 11 and fortunately was using a sleeping bag so I didn’t damage a bed at a friends house. In the middle of the night I snuck out, went across the street to my house, entered the garage and used a space heater to dry my pj’s, then went back to my friends house. Didn’t go back to sleep and rolled up my wet sleeping bag before my friend got up. At that time there weren’t pull ups of any kind only pin on diapers with plastic pants. I never wanted to take that chance again. Really wanted to join Boy Scouts, but those camp outs would not have worked out well.
 
Thanks for all the help! The sleepover was last night. I didn’t tell my friend about my accidents. I started too, but chickened out. My grandma did tell his mom though so she knew about it. I took a Walmart plastic bag with me. When I had an accident last night I just tried to be discrete as possible.

My friends mom woke me up before everyone else this morning which gave me enough time to change out of the wet pull-up and get into a dry one and even get a shower before everyone else woke up. I don’t think anyone suspects anything!
 
I’m not sure if I should go ahead and take off the pull-up now since I normally don’t have accidents during the daytime. Every so often I do so that’s why I don’t know if I should. My grandma told me to wear one all day so I don’t risk an accident, but we wrestle and stuff like that so I don’t want everyone to see that I’m wearing one
 
@Danman Yeah, I’ll probably take it off. Since I went to the doctor and he’s gave me medicine my daytime accidents have went down a lot. The only accidents during the day I have now are if I fall asleep somehow or I leak sometimes.
 
If you are worried about a little dribbling, you can get a pad like a guard or shield to stick in your underwear.
 
Claytonp they are in the same grocery store aisle as the disposable underwear
Look at product for men
Also same area at Walmart
 
@Maymay941 ohhhh, yeah, I’ve seen those before in the store. I’m not going to the store today with anyone. So maybe I’ll get them in the future. For today I think I’ll be fine though. I don’t think I’ll dribble or anything. So I’m just gonna take this pull-up off and put it in my bag. Should I tell my friends mom what my plan is?
 
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