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Guess what peeps? Romance has suddenly re-entered my life. The man is not longterm potential, but he's middle-term potential. So we'll see what happens. I'm not exactly looking for longterm potential anyway. We had three dates this week. As the Pet Shop Boys sing, "Love comes quickly, whatever you do..." I told him about my fall down the cliff and how it split my left buttock in half horizontally. I let him see the scar; he wanted to (yikes, maybe I shouldn't have let him!). He wasn't grossed out at all; he wanted to kiss it better. The scar is a big part of why I've avoided dating, in addition to the diapers. We didn't get to talk about diapers, yet. He prefers to sleep alone after dates, so hey, let him, works out in my favor because I don't even actually have to tell him at this time. I still absolutely dread having to tell him. We'll see how that part goes, if we make it that far.
My point is to everyone out there, especially our youngest members, even if you need to take a break from dating while figuring out how to live with incontinence, it's perfectly okay for you to do so. It doesn't mean you'll never date again. Since my accident happened on 1/14/15 and I became incontinent at night, I full-heartedly believed I'd never, ever date again. Well here it is happening, 6.5 years later. Who knew? I never fully closed off my heart and hoped that a good man would eventually emerge and pull me out of my self-imposed lull. Who knows how long this will last, but at least now I know I *can* find the strength to date again. I know very personally how easy it is to get stuck in a depressive funk for years about newly incurred incontinence; my depression was so bad, I could barely get out of bed for a few years. But now, finally, I feel like I am living again. What a flippin' relief!!!!!!!!!!! And thank you especially to @Billliveshere because you've always had faith I would resume dating at some point. Thanks for having encouraged me to keep my heart open, because it helped me do so! Hugs to all of you!
My point is to everyone out there, especially our youngest members, even if you need to take a break from dating while figuring out how to live with incontinence, it's perfectly okay for you to do so. It doesn't mean you'll never date again. Since my accident happened on 1/14/15 and I became incontinent at night, I full-heartedly believed I'd never, ever date again. Well here it is happening, 6.5 years later. Who knew? I never fully closed off my heart and hoped that a good man would eventually emerge and pull me out of my self-imposed lull. Who knows how long this will last, but at least now I know I *can* find the strength to date again. I know very personally how easy it is to get stuck in a depressive funk for years about newly incurred incontinence; my depression was so bad, I could barely get out of bed for a few years. But now, finally, I feel like I am living again. What a flippin' relief!!!!!!!!!!! And thank you especially to @Billliveshere because you've always had faith I would resume dating at some point. Thanks for having encouraged me to keep my heart open, because it helped me do so! Hugs to all of you!
