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Hi! Not sure if this is the right page for me or not. My boyfriend is an alcoholic. I decided a while back I could deal with it. Though it is a problem, and I do wish he would quit, I can accept it so that we can have a relationship. The ONLY thing I cannot accept is his bed wetting.
Im suspicious that there is something more to his bed wetting other than just alcohol because he doesn’t have to be drunk to wet the bed though he does always have drinks in him.
He refuses to see a Dr.
Only once would he agree to wear absorbent underwear due to me completely loosing it.
I feel like he won’t acknowledge the impact it has on me. He only responds with superficial responses like “I don’t do it on purpose” or “it’s embarrassing for me.”
I realize it is humiliating. I try my best to support him. But I’m the end, I can’t make him take initiative.
Im due to have our child in a few weeks and I’m incredibly painful and high risk. I have tried to explain to him I already can’t sleep. When I sleep with him, I constantly wake up with anxiety that he peed the bed. I constantly wake him up and usher him to the bathroom. He still pees and my bed and sometimes I am soaked.
I’ve tried setting boundaries by not helping him clean it up. I come to bed when he is done. I still can’t sleep then because of the anxiety that it’s soaking through the sheets and often times, it does.
Now I have set the boundary of sleeping on the couch. If I suspect he will pee or if he does pee, I tried sleeping on the couch rather than being mad. That seems to really bother him yet he still has made no changes.
Last night I couldn’t do it. I was to uncomfortable. So I came to bed. The urine soaked through the sheets. I can smell it.
What else can I do?
What am I doing wrong?
I desperately want him to get help…
Im suspicious that there is something more to his bed wetting other than just alcohol because he doesn’t have to be drunk to wet the bed though he does always have drinks in him.
He refuses to see a Dr.
Only once would he agree to wear absorbent underwear due to me completely loosing it.
I feel like he won’t acknowledge the impact it has on me. He only responds with superficial responses like “I don’t do it on purpose” or “it’s embarrassing for me.”
I realize it is humiliating. I try my best to support him. But I’m the end, I can’t make him take initiative.
Im due to have our child in a few weeks and I’m incredibly painful and high risk. I have tried to explain to him I already can’t sleep. When I sleep with him, I constantly wake up with anxiety that he peed the bed. I constantly wake him up and usher him to the bathroom. He still pees and my bed and sometimes I am soaked.
I’ve tried setting boundaries by not helping him clean it up. I come to bed when he is done. I still can’t sleep then because of the anxiety that it’s soaking through the sheets and often times, it does.
Now I have set the boundary of sleeping on the couch. If I suspect he will pee or if he does pee, I tried sleeping on the couch rather than being mad. That seems to really bother him yet he still has made no changes.
Last night I couldn’t do it. I was to uncomfortable. So I came to bed. The urine soaked through the sheets. I can smell it.
What else can I do?
What am I doing wrong?
I desperately want him to get help…