Barbara Drabek: Been there, done that. Tried the PT route. Been through as intense/complete exam as the Urologist do for males, this year, and not just a reputable hospital,but as top-flight as there are on the west coast. My cancer was 2003 (prostate) and caused a pretty mild issue. Then there was the Septic shock 7-month-issue 10 years later. Every operation involving a catheter seems to make the issue worse (I've had a minimum of 4 not cancer-related), although with lots of Kleigels, originally i could make it some better. The increase was comparatively minor. The most recent one that affected my incontinence was a brain tumor this year (Sheesh, that increased the issue by several orders of magnitude, now reduced to about twice the "before" issue) Went from a #1, sometimes a #2 absorbency pad to #2 but mostly #3 pad, so i consider myself lucky, in one sense. By the by. Male pads don't come in Absorbency rates, are a bad design, just one pad, and then right up to extreme (Briefs), so i use woman's. The manufacturers wouldn't dare do that to women. The doctors at my support group's Retreats don't hold up much hope, and it's a different Doc every Retreat. Been reading about the newest mechanical aids and sensors. Not enough good reviews for me to spend the sheer amount of money to travel and stay in Seattle to try it/them) and "aftercare" too expensive/difficult.
I take darfenicin and an anti-spasmatic (AntiSeisure) and they do help. I got taken off darfenicin in a nursing home, once, and it might as well been called a punishment. Darn sadistic doctor, i thought. If he hadn't prescribed it, he didn't want me to continue with whatever it was. He didn't quite get away with not feeding me my anti-coagulant. Due to liability issues, i suspect. So i don't bother to use the internet for that issue, except PubMed and the Journals (Toooo damn expensive, but often the Abstract tells me what i need to know. If i think i want to read, it, i try to hunt down a free source. That lady in Hungary or someplace like that has stolen & published for free maybe a million of those studies. Bless her.)