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Has anyone had terrible accidents? Because mine is bad and I have no idea how to even go about this situation. I am in my 20s, in the field of medicine and this is my purpose. I have gone to my PCP, urologists, PT my whole childhood trying to find answers on why I still wet the bed. This is my worst insecurity, and I don't know anyone who understands. I have always dreaded traveling due to my fear of accidents at night. (this is the only time it happens) My boyfriend has experienced my problem firsthand but I have always been super insecure about it with him. He has never made me feel bad about it but you know the feeling of having to live with this... Outside of my family knowing my problem, he is the only one until recently. His family lives out of state and they invited me to road trip (8h) and visit them, how could I say no to meeting my inlaws? We have gone several times to visit now, and luckily taking all the precautions necessary I had not wet the bed until this recent time that we went to visit. I wanted the earth to eat me alive. I wanted the world to stop. I wanted to just die from humiliation. I wet the bed even after wearing a diaper. (I was borrowing his brother's room for the trip, and bf was in another room just for decency of his parents) That was the last day of our visit & that we were supposed to be staying with his family. That morning that it happened we were supposed to jump in the car since everything was already packed for the most part. My mind was going crazy about the severity of my stupid f' problem. Feeling like my world was coming down, having no mind for solutions, and no plan... I left that morning and said nothing. Now they know. I know I might be a terrible person for this, but would anyone want to jump in on advice? My bf has proved to be the love of my life and we even plan on marriage, but now his family probably hates me. I have seen his family again since then and act like nothing ever happened. In the spur of the moment, I thought of leaving cash behind for them to buy a new mattress but I had 0, or saying my biggest apologies, even then knowing their personalities and their insensitive joking at times, I panicked and imagined the worst. At that time - in my mind, I was only thinking: how do I even explain my worst insecurity to him and his parents? What do I even do at this point? Before this, I knew his parents truly loved me and vice versa. It has been months now and his parents have not said anything to him or to me regarding the incident (he clearly doesn't know from my end), we have always been super honest with each other but this is something that has bugged me all my life and I feel terrible for not telling him in the moment. I don't know what to do! I found this group and I almost cried at how many people deal from this same condition! I need advice, and I have no one I trust to talk to this about...