How long did it take you to adjust to incontinence?

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Yes I always know when I am leaking, usually have a few seconds warning also, only a couple of times have I wet in my sleep, and yes it freaked me out when I realized it too.

 

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Sarah060486 I was really freaked out too. When I woke up wet and messy.i didn't want to wear an incontinence brief but after several accidents I realized that I have to wear one. I don't remember the first time because I was in the hospital and has brain damage so I don't really remember being incontinent at first I kind of faded into realizing that hey I am wearing diapers!! I had a continence nurse and she cut me from the program after I had no success. I was so embarrassed when someone who knew me found out.bsome people treat me different but that could be because of my brain injury. I have been doubly incontinent for about ten years. I hated the diapers at first but have been in them full time now for so long I would have extreme anxiety and worry If I wasn't wearing one I hope that your problem never gets like mine but I can definitely relate to the things you have said thank you for your time and I hope you are doing well

 

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@Sprung87 Thank you so much for your concerns about my husband... he is loving and supportive, and has known somewhat of this but I don't know, I just feel like I would be mortified if he saw me in a wet pull-up.. I guess I'm afraid it would affect our intimate relationship negatively...not 'sexy'to wear a diaper.

I totally get you. Intimacy was one of my biggest fears too. Still, my wife seems like have no issues with me wearing diapers. She even changed me for a few days, when I cut my hand and couldn't use it at all. When my problems started, we had sex once and while cuddling afterwards, I just suddenly felt I was wetting and straight onto her left leg. I was mortified and started crying on the spot. She was kind, loving and made no fuss. She took me to shower and we showered together, then I diaperd up and she cuddled me until I fell asleep. Since then we introduced a few protective measurements, but I can reassure you, we still have intimacy and sex regularly, regardless of my incontinence.
I believe love and communication is the key here. If you love each other and communicate openly, you can find a way not to feel this as a burden.

 

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Hi, sorry you are going through all of this!

I've been a bedwetter most of my life and even then it still took years to accept my problem. It wasn't until I met my now wife and she was so understanding and supportive that it made me feel okay about it all. Prior to that it was very difficult to accept.

 

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To be honest not that long. I guess within 6 months to a year and it just became a minor inconvenience.