21 and still bedwetting.

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Hi my name is Joe im 21 and from the UK

I have been bedwetting since i was a child. It has been an ongoing issue and im lucky to be dry a few days a week i go to sleep with the assumption of waking up wet.
Went to the doctors as a child and have been on medications from desmomelts to oxybutynin and more recently vesicare with no affect.
Its been tough growing up socially and relationship wise as i prefer to isolate myself than cause myself embarrassment and then be hurt which has had a negative impact on my life.
I am currently waiting for a referral letter from my GP to a bladder specialist as i would like to know what is causing it.
Would just like to know if there's others out there in the same boat and how they've dealt with it.

 

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I was still bedwetting more often than not at your age but all of a sudden just before 22nd birthday it stopped. I grew up a chronic nightly wetter and was hardly ever dry a night until my late teens. Then gradually it tailed off a bit but even so I wet a few times a week. I had numerous doctors appointments but back then the standard answer was "Oh he will grow out of it in his own time" Eventually I got refered to the then fledgling NHS Continence service andI was issued with a fitted Sandra cover for my bed and big blue adult disposable nappies to wear. Nothing was ever done to cure my problem though.
Now I wet again at night but at least I have a diagnosis for this now.

 

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Good luck. Some of us never grow out of it. At 50 I'm pretty much resigned to the idea of never being dry regularly for the rest of my life. I always wonder had I addressed the issue at a younger age that maybe I could have fixed it. So good on you for making the effort to resolve the problem vs ignoring like I did.

 

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When my daughter continued to wet the bed at 6 years of age, I rejected the medication that her doctor suggested because of side effects. A social worker recommended the alarm device which we diligently used, nightly, for two years. I moved a bed into her bedroom so that I would hear the alarm when she peed and get her up; she used the toilet, washed her face and body and put on clean pj's. We kept track of the amount of pee that she exuded and the days that she was dry. Soon after she was declared "cured," we moved and had to do the same procedure for a few months. Over the next few years she wet the bed two times after she had been drinking alcohol. But that was the end. The idea here is that the bladder muscles are undeveloped and the consistent waking helps to build up the message that the bladder needs emptying. It worked for us at great sacrifice but was well worth the trouble. Now she's 56 and has had no bed wetting since then. I think a lot of times people don't want to try this alarm system because it does take dedication. It's like have a hip replacement though. After the surgery you have to do exercises to build up your muscles and then keep being active. But the alarm system is very cheap compared to prescriptions and inestimable doctor visits over a lifetime. It makes sense to me to try it.

 

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Correction - the bladder muscles are underdeveloped!

 

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I also wet the bed nearly every night until I was about 18. It slowed down considerably for about 10 years with an occasional wetting. It returned again off an ob for a few more years, and then came back with a vengeance. I now wet the bed every night and manage it with diapers and plastic pants. I will be 71 this year

 

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That's off and on

 

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I’ve had bed wetting problems since I was a kid and have felt an immense amount of shame because of it.I’m 24 now and trying to fight that feeling, it’s not like it’s by choice so there’s no reason to blame myself. My sisters tell me my dad would get really angry about when I was a kid but I honestly don’t remember it specifically. It’s hard right now because I had gone months without having a wet night and was so happy because I thought it was over, but it’s happened 3 times in the last couple weeks. I’m going to start my medicine up again, and look into an alarm to see if that helps long term. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one with this problem.

 

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@joem146 welcome! Sorry to hear you are in the club with us all! I’m 33 and have been dealing with it most of my life so you’re definitely not alone. Tried several medications and other home remedies but no real help from them.

I too used to stay away from relationships because of fear of having to tell someone. Eventually I found my now wife and she has been amazing with understanding and being supportive so don’t give up hope that you will find someone!

Have you been given any reasons as to why it’s happening? Is it every night?

 

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HH1230 I hope you give the alarm system a go. It may take several months for you to see progress, but if there's no "medical reason" for your bedwetting this could be the changer. You have to be willing to be consistent and don't give up. I hope it will work for you too.

 

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Hi my name is Joe im 21 and from the UK

I have been bedwetting since i was a child. It has been an ongoing issue and im lucky to be dry a few days a week i go to sleep with the assumption of waking up wet.
Went to the doctors as a child and have been on medications from desmomelts to oxybutynin and more recently vesicare with no affect.
Its been tough growing up socially and relationship wise as i prefer to isolate myself than cause myself embarrassment and then be hurt which has had a negative impact on my life.
I am currently waiting for a referral letter from my GP to a bladder specialist as i would like to know what is causing it.
Would just like to know if there's others out there in the same boat and how they've dealt with it.

Hey Joe, I understand what you're going through bro. It sucks. I get really bad bladder spasms, sometimes downright painful that when more often than not worsen when laying down - causes urge incontinence episodes and having to mentally and emotionally cope with nightime incontinence is something that hits home for myself.

Sending prayers your way

 

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I developed bladder issues including bedwetting as an adult. I can't imagine growing up with it, I know growing up can be tough enough on it's own!

I was already married when my bladder started acting up, but I will tell you that the right people in your life won't even bat an eye. I'm currently waiting to see another specialist (long overdue), but my wife has supported and helped me make peace with it. Don't let it get you down. I think there are many body positivity groups these days, and we shouldn't be made to feel bad for something outside our own control.

 

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@Stevewet Hi steve thanks for sharing your story, i understand where you're coming from i'm glad you were able to get a diagnosis in the end. Get what you mean about oh he will grow out of it, i have been seeking help since mid to late 2000s and still have no diagnosis i have tried alarms with no affect, most doctors just liked to prescribe medications, with the hope of it curing everything.

 

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@JC1471 Thank you, there's always help out there not too late to address the problem. Hopefully i can get the issue resolved good luck to yourself too.

 

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@ritanofsinger Thank you for sharing your story, it's very eye opening. I'm glad you were able to sort the problem out so soon. I have tried a alarm before but it didn't really help i might have to look into trying it again, as i certainly agree with you about the bladder muscles being undeveloped.

 

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@HH1230 Hi i know how you feel mate trust me. Your lucky to go months being dry that is a rare thing for myself. Your not the only one man dont worry. Hope things work out for you, good luck.

 

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@johnnykarate Hi Johnny, Its ok haha. Sorry to hear medication or home remedies had no effect.

Glad to hear that mate i'm not going to give up don't worry.

I've been given no diagnosis, overactive bladder was a common answer from the doctors, as i've gotten older i'm starting to think its a muscle, or deep sleep related issue waiting for referrals from doctors so i can find out. It is near enough every night but sometimes i can be dry, i cant travel or stay away etc, without taking waterproof bedding, i'm always under the presumption i will wake up wet.