Unpredictable

[Damp]

I have been experiencing unpredictable incontinence for quite a few years. Some days are better than others. I usually wear a diaper, but there are times when it is over kill. The problem is that I never know when I will have a good day or a not so good day. It seems like such a waist to discard an unused diaper. I am 78 years old with a variety of health issues including heart failure, severe lumbar stenosis, and peripheral neuropathy. I had a prostatectomy nearly 8 years ago. Do I just accept that I should wear diapers and move on with what life I have left? Has anyone else experience a similar dilemma? If so, how did/do you manage? Thanks for any suggestions.

 

[Wet-Again]

Damp,

It sounds like you are going through a challenging time. I can't really offer you any 'good' advice, as I am newly incontinent. I am wearing diapers 24/7, hoping my diaper doesn't leak.

I hope that one of the other members will have some advice for you that will be helpful. I just wanted to respond to let you know someone heard you.

Perhaps you need to monitor how many good days and how many bad days in order to make your decision. When you have a bad day, and you are not wearing a diaper, are you normally at home? Or out in public?

I will say that my concept of who "I am" has changed a bit recently. This is a challenging situation. I guess one thing that helps me is my belief that all these things give us experience. Hopefully I will be more compassionate in the future when I encounter others struggling.

Wet-Again