Really worried about teenage son - Advice / Thoughts

[Medazzland]

Hi all

First post so not sure what to expect - I looked on the first post forum but saw that not many got any replies, so thought i'd start here

Put simply my 18 year old son is night time incontinent, Its been going on for ( i think) at least 8 months or so.

Initially it was an odour in his room that he claimed was through / after a night out when he'd had too many drinks. My wife and I sorted the room slowly and thought it was a one off.

He's a private lad and my wife and I dont want to make an issue of it BUT its been going on ( and off i think) since then. In the last week or so while decorating his room we found a pack of night time pants and since wet ones that he must be disposing of periodically. I know of a couple of times hes put them in the outside bin when clearing his room discreetly.

He doesnt know that we are aware of this, as we haven't mentioned and we obviously understand the sensitivity / embarrassment he's likely to be feeling.

My wife did speak to him a few months ago but he denied it was an issue when we suggested seeing a Dr for a check up. He's otherwise fit and healthy and plays sports etc / eats ok / seemingly drinks enough.


Truthfully I'm both upset for him and welcome advice on how to approach it again without upsetting him and making it worse.

I guess I'm also looking for some hope that this might be solvable in the longer term as Im upset with it and not sure how to approach.

Ive done some reading about teenage incontinence but welcome thoughts

His older brother has T1 diabetes which happened as a teen - Can this be linked?

 

[Stonehouse]

Hi all

First post so not sure what to expect - I looked on the first post forum but saw that not many got any replies, so thought i'd start here

Put simply my 18 year old son is night time incontinent, Its been going on for ( i think) at least 8 months or so.

Initially it was an odour in his room that he claimed was through / after a night out when he'd had too many drinks. My wife and I sorted the room slowly and thought it was a one off.

He's a private lad and my wife and I dont want to make an issue of it BUT its been going on ( and off i think) since then. In the last week or so while decorating his room we found a pack of night time pants and since wet ones that he must be disposing of periodically. I know of a couple of times hes put them in the outside bin when clearing his room discreetly.

He doesnt know that we are aware of this, as we haven't mentioned and we obviously understand the sensitivity / embarrassment he's likely to be feeling.

My wife did speak to him a few months ago but he denied it was an issue when we suggested seeing a Dr for a check up. He's otherwise fit and healthy and plays sports etc / eats ok / seemingly drinks enough.


Truthfully I'm both upset for him and welcome advice on how to approach it again without upsetting him and making it worse.

I guess I'm also looking for some hope that this might be solvable in the longer term as Im upset with it and not sure how to approach.

Ive done some reading about teenage incontinence but welcome thoughts

His older brother has T1 diabetes which happened as a teen - Can this be linked?

I became incontinent as a 13 year old teenage boy over 36 years ago not a great age with so much going on. In my case it was an instant thing one day not next day woke up from a life saving operation (mis diagnosis) to find out that I would be diaper dependent for the rest of my life.

My suggestion is to find a way to have a private one way download with his Dr to inform a future visit with your son. Fortunately you can use his older brother as cover to initiate a full range of tests. You could say that learning the lessons from your older brother the Dr wants to run a series of tests to see if you have inherited the same conditions and as part of Dr questions could dress in the night time issues.

In my case it was hard to accept but I had a great group of people around me from the local pharmacist to the girls at school they were awesome as I played lots of sports with them for some reason probably the teachers thought back then incontinence and periods went well together.

Incontinence is not a death sentence it is completely manageable and diapers allowed me to have as close as possible normal teenage life the big win at school was being able to use the staff changing facilities.

I have incontinence but it does not have me.

Sending best wishes