Great thread and posts. It would seem tabs have more advantages. Anxiety makes a good point on doctor office visits. As I was completing radiation the nurse said don’t worry about the techs seeing the pull-up.
Mem1020 appears to be a new member. Welcome! With respect to which brands of tabbed have been successful, it certainly is individual choice. Some will base on comfort, fit, pricing and some on absorption. You can probably get 3 out of the 4 and be happy. As Anxiety noted the broad market has moved to pull-ups. So you will have to some search. As mentioned above Tranquility ATNs. NorthShore Megamax and in other threads there are a number of similar brands mentioned. I prefer the Megamax at night.