RPS 15 yrs. ago. Stress & urge incontinence persist. For most of the time afterwards, one male guard lasted all day. In the last 6 months, guards saturated, used 2-4 per day. Occasional bedwetting.
Changed to Poise, Tena & Equate (WalMart) overnight pads. All are shaped, vs. the long rectangle of unisex pads. Invert larger end to the front and they all work very well. Contain surges and floods that happen occasionally. Wear plastic pant to bed, just in case (not needed, so far).
Like all other aging issues, it's a change. Adapting is far less stressful than ranting and resisting.