I too am a long term bedwetter with heavy voiding at night following spinal injury / surgery years ago. In my late 50’s. For years I used disposable nappies such as Tenaslip maxi or ultima but more recently I’ve found some custom made Velcro fastened cloth napppies that I wear with plastic or PUL pants. Despite initially feeling more self conscious of the extra bulk and the babyish sort of feelings I had about wearing them I much prefer them now. I find them more comfortable and reliable, more absorbant for a side sleeper and I seem to sleep better. My new wife says she prefers me in cloth than disposables as they are more environmentally friendly.
For daytime naps, travelling or flights I have no hesitation in slipping a disposable back on as I know I am likely to wet not only when asleep but often when sat in a confined position for a length of time. I have nerve damage which reduces my sensation of a wanting to pee and extreme urgency sometimes so in situations like a flight, a long car journey or on public transport where I can’t get to loo regularly or very quickly, I know what will happen.
On the whole I manage this really well with my loving wife’s support. There has been the odd embarrassing moment such as falling asleep on a sun lounger in a friends garden when I was unprepared only to wake up with wet light coloured chinos on for all to see. Also a full on pants wetting incident on a flight when theres was turbulence and the flight attendant would’ve let me go to toilet despite my protests and explanation. That was very degrading and from that moment on I will always wear a nappy when travelling. It’s only me, and my wife, who knows my secret. I’m over the “being self conscious” thing now. I’ve a very weak and unpredictable bladder so we both agree that I am in nappies a lot of the time.
I love my wife very much for the way she accepts me, loves me and helps care for me despite this issue. We’ve only been married one year, together four years and she’s never batted an eyelid at this, unlike my first wife who was disgusted with me when my problems started after back injury.
