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@wyr13 @AUG168 This is a good read I think. https://augustams.com/how-to-use-a-penis-pump-for-penis-exercise/
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@Hbrownlow I guess I should have added a note that I was not advertising for any product and have never owned any of the products or have any connection with them. That is just the best article that I have found that explains everything very well. VED can be used for sex as well, but I have never done so. As they trap blood and stop circulation there are time limits and also the number of times to be used a week for sex. VED can also cause damage and the article explains about going slow when applying vacuum. Most medical grade VED are set for low pressure. But damage can still be done if applied too fast. If I were to buy one, I would get one with a gauge and the information I have read is that 5 Hg is the number to use to stay around for therapy. There are many low cost devices out there. Some are adapted automotive vacuum tools. Those apply vacuum very fast and require care to go extra slow. Not even telling men they should do this. Just trying to let guys know what is going on in case your doctor did not. Why you have lost size. There is something you can do about it if you want to. Good luck.
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ED became an issue with me after back surgeries. I have never been totally out of diapers my entire life.
My question is have men who have ED and wear diaper to manage their incontinence, have you dealt with the size of your penis?
I was of normal size 6+ inches when erect no laughing when I do take viagra I get kind of an erection. The issue is the size of it now it is closer to 1.5-2” I don’t understand how this is possible? Even my testicles have like come up near my body and with penis or testicles hang whatsoever. When I have taken viagra and it is the size mentioned before, it is impossible for penetration, my wife actually said to me, I can’t even like get a hold of it to try and give a handjob. Why would it do this? Anyone have any insight?
My question is have men who have ED and wear diaper to manage their incontinence, have you dealt with the size of your penis?
I was of normal size 6+ inches when erect no laughing when I do take viagra I get kind of an erection. The issue is the size of it now it is closer to 1.5-2” I don’t understand how this is possible? Even my testicles have like come up near my body and with penis or testicles hang whatsoever. When I have taken viagra and it is the size mentioned before, it is impossible for penetration, my wife actually said to me, I can’t even like get a hold of it to try and give a handjob. Why would it do this? Anyone have any insight?
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@snow The approved medical pumps that are expensive have a limited max vacuum so that is not a problem with them. The ones that are not med approved can cause damage and pain with too much vacuum. That is why I recommended that if you get one of these to get one with a gauge so you can limit vacuum. The process for applying vacuum slowly is outlined in that link I posted. I think it was something like turn the battery powered approved VED on for a couple of seconds then turn it off and wait a few seconds and then repeat. With a manual pump that would need to be a few slow easy pumps and then wait. I have seen small red spots form from ruptured capillaries in pictures posted on other sites. You can google damage caused by VED use if you or anyone else would like.
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@Wbwayne11 Sorry for your trouble. I am not in diapers yet but the answer is complicated. Basically if you stop having nighttime erections or erections when you wake up the tissue starts to atrophy. This can be caused by a lot of things such as high BP, Diabetes, medication, nerve or vascular injuries and a lot more that your doctor should know about. I posted a like in one of my earlier post about VED therapy. There are other links that show how that therapy will help restore some size loss. This link is a medical research paper that has pictures of real body parts and may push the rule on this site not to post such pictures. While I am not posting a picture I am posting a link to a medical research paper that dose have a picture that violates that rule. I will send you the link in a message and if you want to read the research paper and the link I posted above I think it may give you a better understanding of what is going on. I am not a doctor but will try to help in anyway that I can. Best of luck going forward with your struggles.
If anyone else would like to read that research paper just let me know and I will send the link to you.
If anyone else would like to read that research paper just let me know and I will send the link to you.
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@wyr13 No trouble. It differs from the instructions posted a above. The new data seems to lead to shorter times and more reps. And even a bit slower applying vacuum. 5 minutes is a long time for any part of the body to go without fresh blood and oxygen. Men with ED that does not respond to medication and are going to have surgery may be able to do ok with 5 minutes as damage is done already. But for men who are waiting for recovery after RP and trying to slow down shrinkage I would think the link I posted is best. It does not have instructions for a manual pump though. Of course we are a bit different and if there are signs of damage or pain you should stop.
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It’s refreshing to hear of men who are concerned with fixing ED. I’ve had a few partners who didn’t seem to care; they’d just give up. I think in their case, they did just fine when they were alone with porn, but were so addicted to it that when it came time to get it up for a real life partner, they couldn’t. Men have no idea how badly that hurts a woman’s feelings. It’s so disappointing and discouraging; a true turn off. I’ve talked to many female friends about this very thing, and we all agree that when porn became prevalent all over the Internet for free, the way men - particularly millennials - make love totally changed for the worse. Men of all ages have ED now when they get in a bedroom with a live woman. There’s no way porn is going away, so there won’t be a solution in my lifetime for that part of the issue. But if you experience ED for any reason whatsoever, yes, please, address the issue with your physician not only for your own health’s sake, but also for the sake of your partner(s). Please try the medications and the pump.
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@snow As I said this is a complex issue. Porn has been around for a long time and while there are cases of addiction this is nothing really new. Not sure what you refer as a change for the worse. The thing is younger people seem to have a very different outlook than an old guy like me. Men in the millennial age group that I have communicated with were really devastated over ED and are trying to get help. A few even committed suicide.
The thing is ED meds just recently became more affordable. And treatment varies a lot from state to state as insurance is state controlled. There are also side effects with medications. The orange pill can be taken every day and is best if you can afford it and can take it. The blue pill is limited a bit on how often you can take it and needs to be taken 30 minutes before you begin so some planning is needed. Injections will work in some cases pills will not but again are limited in how many times a week and needs to be taken prior to activity so again some planning is needed. They have side effects also. VED is restricted to 20 minutes and 3 or less times a week and takes some practice to work it into foreplay. Surgery is the next best option to the orange pill. Insurance hates to pay for it and most do not have coverage for it before Medicare age. Some men who can afford it will pay out of pocket for the surgery. Usually between 20-30K. Those are a bit of the worst cases and many men do well on treatment. It can be difficult though and men do give up but for the reasons I outlined. This is one of the things where it is much worse on the man than the woman.
I do understand how this can make a woman feel. All men have difficulties though. To much stress, not enough sleep, too much alcohol, medication side effect, or just because. It happens. Except if you had the surgery or really have the injections dialed in. Most of the time it is not anything the woman did or did not do. No matter how well a man hides it, it is worse for him.
That is a quick brush over the main points.
The thing is ED meds just recently became more affordable. And treatment varies a lot from state to state as insurance is state controlled. There are also side effects with medications. The orange pill can be taken every day and is best if you can afford it and can take it. The blue pill is limited a bit on how often you can take it and needs to be taken 30 minutes before you begin so some planning is needed. Injections will work in some cases pills will not but again are limited in how many times a week and needs to be taken prior to activity so again some planning is needed. They have side effects also. VED is restricted to 20 minutes and 3 or less times a week and takes some practice to work it into foreplay. Surgery is the next best option to the orange pill. Insurance hates to pay for it and most do not have coverage for it before Medicare age. Some men who can afford it will pay out of pocket for the surgery. Usually between 20-30K. Those are a bit of the worst cases and many men do well on treatment. It can be difficult though and men do give up but for the reasons I outlined. This is one of the things where it is much worse on the man than the woman.
I do understand how this can make a woman feel. All men have difficulties though. To much stress, not enough sleep, too much alcohol, medication side effect, or just because. It happens. Except if you had the surgery or really have the injections dialed in. Most of the time it is not anything the woman did or did not do. No matter how well a man hides it, it is worse for him.
That is a quick brush over the main points.
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@rmconversion Thank you 
As for the new prevalence of porn, I just meant that from all of time prior to the advent of VHS tapes around 1983s, men only had porn magazines and books and might see a total of 12 naked women per month in porn, if they were willing to take the risk of being seen walking into a lurid bookstore. If a man was lucky, he lived in the city with a porn theater, but then had to face the shame and risk of being seen going inside. Even when he did see a porn movie, they were extremely mild, romantic, even, compared to what goes on now in porn. Sure, there have always been prostitutes and strip club type venues since the dawn of humankind, and no husband has ever not cheated on his wife. We all know that. But again, a man had to risk being seen going in, and while there, might only see a handful of naked women - real women, with natural imperfections.
Even after the advent of the VHS porn tape, a man might see eight women naked per tape. The porn star was considered to be something special, rare, and unachievable for an average man.
But now every man sees ***millions*** of naked women per week on online porn. Just like hardly any men resemble male porn stars with their giant penises and steroid muscles, regular, real-life women don’t look or act anything like the 16-year-old to 24-year-old porn stars, but men forget that. They want every woman to look and act like a porn star, and that’s nothing that a woman actually wants.
It would be so much healthier for all of society if a man was only permitted to look at women in real life, not airbrushed women in porn. Or, for a gay man, only permitted to look at real men who aren’t airbrushed and edited and in totally bizarre positions.
Prior to about 2005 when Internet videos became readily available and free, and it didn’t take forever to download then watch one, that’s when things really started changing. Ever since then, at least a third of all Internet content and profit has been porn.
I started hearing my female friends talk about how horrible men had suddenly become at making love. Instead, men suddenly thought what they should be doing is violent, raw, jackhammer f*cking only. Thanks to the camera angles in porn, men think that they don’t need to touch and caress a woman’s entire body when they’re having sex, but that they can just jackhammer them without touching them in any way. Oral sex is shown as something that is done immediately rather than after getting to know a woman for a while. Oral sex is basically the only form of foreplay shown in porn. The men in porn movies don’t even use their hands to touch the women. There’s zero foreplay except for oral.
The angles and positions shown in porn only behoove male stimulation. They’re not what women want. Most women prefer full body contact and friction, with total penetration. In fact, porn is typically very violent toward women, and now, so are the Millenials who have only grown up with hardcore Internet porn. They didn’t grow up with “Playboy,” “Penthouse,” “Fox,” or softcore VHS tapes. All they’ve ever seen is the filth on the Internet. Thanks to porn, now men think a woman is supposed to have an orgasm within 20 seconds and make it be extremely loud and phony sounding. Any woman who doesn’t sound, act, or look like a porn star will remain single for life.
I was dating a 24-year-old millennial a few years back, who thought it was completely acceptable to begin our first romantic evening by strangling me with his belt. Fortunately, after about 30 painful seconds, he realized that I really meant what I was saying which was “No! I’m not into that fetishy, abusive crap! And even if I was, that’s something you get into at a later stage in a relationship, not on a one-night-stand hook-up. You make arrangements in advance with a SafeWord if that’s what you’re into. You didn’t do any of that, but I wouldn’t have agreed to being strangled, anyway!” He said, “Well, that’s what they do in porn! You have to be willing to do everything that they’re willing to do.” I got up and left, never spoke to him again.
In the experience of me and my female hetero friends, men who are 45 years old and older still know how to make love because that’s what they learned when porn was a lot softer in the 70s, 80s, and 90s. I am 47 and I will never date anybody younger than 46 again. I’d prefer to date somebody in their late 50s or early 60s because they really know what they’re doing when it comes to actually pleasing a woman and having a mutually satisfactory experience. They also realize and accept that real women don’t look nor act like filthy pornstars with fistulas all over inside their bodies.
It’s well-established that most millennial males are fully addicted to online porn, and it’s a travesty. No wonder they’re not dating nor having children! And no wonder they experience ED during real intercourse, even if they’re young, because they’re so over-sexualized and used to having a porn orgasm in a few seconds. They’re incapable of performing during real sex. In my experience, that doesn’t bother them because they’d rather masturbate to porn instead of having actual sex with a real-life partner.
As for the new prevalence of porn, I just meant that from all of time prior to the advent of VHS tapes around 1983s, men only had porn magazines and books and might see a total of 12 naked women per month in porn, if they were willing to take the risk of being seen walking into a lurid bookstore. If a man was lucky, he lived in the city with a porn theater, but then had to face the shame and risk of being seen going inside. Even when he did see a porn movie, they were extremely mild, romantic, even, compared to what goes on now in porn. Sure, there have always been prostitutes and strip club type venues since the dawn of humankind, and no husband has ever not cheated on his wife. We all know that. But again, a man had to risk being seen going in, and while there, might only see a handful of naked women - real women, with natural imperfections.
Even after the advent of the VHS porn tape, a man might see eight women naked per tape. The porn star was considered to be something special, rare, and unachievable for an average man.
But now every man sees ***millions*** of naked women per week on online porn. Just like hardly any men resemble male porn stars with their giant penises and steroid muscles, regular, real-life women don’t look or act anything like the 16-year-old to 24-year-old porn stars, but men forget that. They want every woman to look and act like a porn star, and that’s nothing that a woman actually wants.
It would be so much healthier for all of society if a man was only permitted to look at women in real life, not airbrushed women in porn. Or, for a gay man, only permitted to look at real men who aren’t airbrushed and edited and in totally bizarre positions.
Prior to about 2005 when Internet videos became readily available and free, and it didn’t take forever to download then watch one, that’s when things really started changing. Ever since then, at least a third of all Internet content and profit has been porn.
I started hearing my female friends talk about how horrible men had suddenly become at making love. Instead, men suddenly thought what they should be doing is violent, raw, jackhammer f*cking only. Thanks to the camera angles in porn, men think that they don’t need to touch and caress a woman’s entire body when they’re having sex, but that they can just jackhammer them without touching them in any way. Oral sex is shown as something that is done immediately rather than after getting to know a woman for a while. Oral sex is basically the only form of foreplay shown in porn. The men in porn movies don’t even use their hands to touch the women. There’s zero foreplay except for oral.
The angles and positions shown in porn only behoove male stimulation. They’re not what women want. Most women prefer full body contact and friction, with total penetration. In fact, porn is typically very violent toward women, and now, so are the Millenials who have only grown up with hardcore Internet porn. They didn’t grow up with “Playboy,” “Penthouse,” “Fox,” or softcore VHS tapes. All they’ve ever seen is the filth on the Internet. Thanks to porn, now men think a woman is supposed to have an orgasm within 20 seconds and make it be extremely loud and phony sounding. Any woman who doesn’t sound, act, or look like a porn star will remain single for life.
I was dating a 24-year-old millennial a few years back, who thought it was completely acceptable to begin our first romantic evening by strangling me with his belt. Fortunately, after about 30 painful seconds, he realized that I really meant what I was saying which was “No! I’m not into that fetishy, abusive crap! And even if I was, that’s something you get into at a later stage in a relationship, not on a one-night-stand hook-up. You make arrangements in advance with a SafeWord if that’s what you’re into. You didn’t do any of that, but I wouldn’t have agreed to being strangled, anyway!” He said, “Well, that’s what they do in porn! You have to be willing to do everything that they’re willing to do.” I got up and left, never spoke to him again.
In the experience of me and my female hetero friends, men who are 45 years old and older still know how to make love because that’s what they learned when porn was a lot softer in the 70s, 80s, and 90s. I am 47 and I will never date anybody younger than 46 again. I’d prefer to date somebody in their late 50s or early 60s because they really know what they’re doing when it comes to actually pleasing a woman and having a mutually satisfactory experience. They also realize and accept that real women don’t look nor act like filthy pornstars with fistulas all over inside their bodies.
It’s well-established that most millennial males are fully addicted to online porn, and it’s a travesty. No wonder they’re not dating nor having children! And no wonder they experience ED during real intercourse, even if they’re young, because they’re so over-sexualized and used to having a porn orgasm in a few seconds. They’re incapable of performing during real sex. In my experience, that doesn’t bother them because they’d rather masturbate to porn instead of having actual sex with a real-life partner.
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Youth is wasted on the young. What is wrong with those guys? I am pretty sure even if a woman wanted me to abuse, choke or otherwise do anything of the sort I would just get up and leave. What a turn off. I have read a bit that todays young generation isn't dating, they are just keeping to themselves and avoiding human contact and intimacy. What a waste. I am 67 tomorrow. I am so glad that I did not waste a lot of my time on this planet by saying what if? I usually did.
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Thanks to @Jwmims for bringing this thread to the top.
We are talking quite openly about issues that in society are met with much stigma - and therefore is difficult to discuss. Sex is a wonderful part of life - and a big frustration when one encounters sexual problems. Unfortunately incontinence and illness very often have a negative impact on our sex life. As a male I can relate to the posts in the thread describing the frustration when the erection is failing. I have experienced that myself - in periods where I have had severe issues with IBD - and a combination of medication and not feeling all to sexy in diapers - it all affects us mentally, and unfortunately have a negative impact on our ability to on our erections.
I had a very good female GP when my disease peaked in the beginning and she asked about my sexual health - and she gave me prescription on Cialis and diapers
. It is important to talk about this, it is important to explain to partners that the disease is the likely cause for the ED - it has nothing to do with their attractiveness. And we need to swallow our pride and take medication that can help. Likewise, I think females should do the same. They can use hormones, and if they are “drying up” - there are plenty of lubricants that can help to enjoy sex - even if the first youth is gone.
@snow It is horrible that religious norms are controlling natural activity - I fully agree!
@Jwmims Unfortunately I am of no help in your question.
We are talking quite openly about issues that in society are met with much stigma - and therefore is difficult to discuss. Sex is a wonderful part of life - and a big frustration when one encounters sexual problems. Unfortunately incontinence and illness very often have a negative impact on our sex life. As a male I can relate to the posts in the thread describing the frustration when the erection is failing. I have experienced that myself - in periods where I have had severe issues with IBD - and a combination of medication and not feeling all to sexy in diapers - it all affects us mentally, and unfortunately have a negative impact on our ability to on our erections.
I had a very good female GP when my disease peaked in the beginning and she asked about my sexual health - and she gave me prescription on Cialis and diapers
. It is important to talk about this, it is important to explain to partners that the disease is the likely cause for the ED - it has nothing to do with their attractiveness. And we need to swallow our pride and take medication that can help. Likewise, I think females should do the same. They can use hormones, and if they are “drying up” - there are plenty of lubricants that can help to enjoy sex - even if the first youth is gone.@snow It is horrible that religious norms are controlling natural activity - I fully agree!
@Jwmims Unfortunately I am of no help in your question.
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Jwmims. Almost impossible to predict. Some recovery quickly. I spoke to a friend in church yesterday. 70 per cent recovery in about 4 months after prostatectomy with nerve sparing on one side. Enough to have penetration. As for me, exact same op and nerve sparing on one side and while there is a little stirring still need VP and I am 14 months post op. Admittedly, he is 57 and I am 68. It seems a complex issue with many factors contributing to the eventual recovery. And I have to accept that some never fully recover naturally and may always need support.
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