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I used to be a teen-bedwetter (up to 14 & 1/2) with all the associated shame and loss of self-estime back in the sixties, I was the eldest of 3 and my sieblings and same age cousins were not affected by this condition. I was cured by the bell and pad alarm at the time. Unuseful to tell that I allways refused going to boy-scout camps...

3 years ago I got prostate surgery. Just after I was totally incontinent, I mostly recovered with physical therapy.

Right now I control it at daytime (going to bathroom every 2 hours) and about 2 nites out of 3 (going to the bathroom as soon as I wake up even if don't feel i need to). Whenever I have a continuous 7-hours sleep I bedwet : The urgency wakes me up in the morning but i cannot control a full bladder: as soon as I stand or even sit it starts flowing and I can't stop it. In my case watching football games while drinking beer with friends, has an almost certain result the next morning...

The physical therapist has let me know that very little or no hope for a total recovery might be expected. Thus I returned to wearing waterproof pants and diapers to bed.

I have to admit that huge progress were made for confort, discretion and efficiency with PUL pants and disposable diapers as compared to 45 years ago vinyl pants and used towels.

But even if it's less embarrassing it'a a real burden
 
Many years ago I was a bed wetter till age 8-9. It was handled with diapers and plastic pants. However embarrassing it was better than a wet bed. Now that I am in my 60's it is back, well sort of. I am dealing with getting up a few times a night and trying to get back to sleep. Doc says prostate is OK, considering a urologist? But any way, I am back to night diapers at least for now. They worked way back and work now. A good nights sleep is worth the inconvenience of a diaper. Having had diaper experience as an older child makes it much easier to accept at this stage of my life. May not be for all, but works for me.
Many of my friends have told me how much they have to get up at night,almost want to suggest my solution but just can't.
 
Gege,

Given that your doctors say there isn't much change of curing your condition, you have to find a way of managing it with as little stress and bother as possible. I would suggest that you find an overnight diaper that lets you sleep through the night and wake up in a dry bed. Getting a good night's sleep on a regular basis will help you to feel better in many ways. Needing to use the bathroom every two hours is a nuisance, but I certainly understand that you may find that preferable to wearing a daytime diaper. I handled similar daytime urgency in the same way for 25 years or so. However, when that approach no longer worked reliably to keep my pants dry, I started wearing a diaper 24/7. Wearing a diaper means that I don't always have to know where the nearest bathroom is and worry about whether I'll make it there in time. Wearing a diaper 24/7 has been such an important stress reliever for me that I regret not having gone that route at least a decade before I was forced to do so.
 
Thanks to you all for answering and support.

It's true that having had the plastic pant and diaper experience as an older kid and teen makes it a litle easier to accept for night-time, but Pff...
I found disposable and waterproof pants that works for me and much better in many ways that those i had to endure 50 years ago. I prefer to have them than strugling with wet sheets. With my present condition bedwrtting alarms wouldn't help.
On the contrary for day time I find it simply impossible (and I am still at work). Just after i got my prostate surgery i had a penile collector for 2 month: really an horrible experience. During those three years I had only one public accident (while Queuing in an airport at immigration.)
If can manage it 99.9% by day-time, i feel it's not necessary for me to be diapered 24/7. ( an the cost is high too)
 
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