Sscha005, you should first come clear with some basics about incontinence.
1.incontinence is not an illness of itself but always a symptom of another underlying problem. To find possible treatments, first step is seeing medical professionals in order to find out what‘s causing your problems!
2. Treatments of IC symptoms is mostly a long term project. There does not exist the one med which you take and one day later the problem is solved. It takes time and often some trial and errors! Sometimes only a reduction of IC symptoms is possible, sometimes a complete healing.
3. in the meantime, don’t let your bladder dictate your life! There are so many different incontinence supplies available ( pads, pants, diapers) in every shape, size and saturation level, comfortable and reliable, which allow you to find back to you regular life without anyone else being able to remark anything! Don’t feel ashamed buying and using such products if an enhancement of your quality of life is the result!
I wish you all the best!