Apologies about the length of this reply.
Key points for me are:
regardless of what the various websites tell us our recovery to an acceptable continence level can take 12-18 months;
keep the kegels going even if they don't seem to be working;
keeping a graph of leakage helped me visualise my progress-good and bad days.
I'm 71 and had a RALP late October 2023. On the advice of my physio I kept a detailed diary of liquid input, urine output and (continence) pad weight and numbers used per day. I consulted him fortnightly 3 times after my catheter removal. I was advised to limit physical activity for the first 6 weeks and lift no more than 3kg and drink at least 2L of water per day. From week 2 I started walking 20 min per day and tried to have some movement every hou. My physio had me doing 5 fast kegels 5 times per day for 4 weeks post catheter removal; then added 5 slower 10 sec holds 5 times per day from week 6 which I keep doing.
For the first 4 weeks I was still urinating 13-16 times a day. I was leaking 250-300mL per day, around 30 mL per night using minimum 3 level 3 pads. The diary enabled my to track trends eg I had much less leakage in the morning and much more 2-6 pm.
While I didn't feel positive, my physio was commenting that my leakage wasn't increasing as my activity levels increased.
I had a week 7 post-op visit (minimal PSA...YES!!!) to my urologist was received reports from the physio. He felt my lack of improvement was due to a pre-existing over active bladder (OAB) and suggested I take Betmiga (mirabegron). He also advised to decrease water intake and drink when thirsty. I now drink 1.5-2L per day depending on weather...hot summer in Australia at the moment.
Had an almost immediate impact decreasing average output 100-150mL weeks 8-9; ~50mL weeks 10-11; 16-20mL weeks 12-13; and 13mL this week. I now use one level 2 pad per day and will probably move to level 1 pads when my supply runs out.
I have attached a graph of leakage which I kept form week 3...shows the ups and downs.