Paranoid about bed wetting and losing sleep

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Hi, just wondering if anyone has had a similar issue to me as I can’t seem to find any information anywhere for what I’m experiencing.

I have wet the bed a few times as an adult although it happens so rarely (maybe once every 1 or 2 years) that it isn’t really much of an issue. When it happens usually seems to be when I am under more stress than usual so I am sure that this may be the cause.

The problem however is that lately I have started to become paranoid about wetting the bed and will wake up in the middle of the night thinking I need to pee. I will go to the toilet and get back into bed but my mind just keeps thinking about needing to pee and I can’t get back to sleep. If I go to the toilet again, not much comes out because I don’t actually need to go. I think it is all in my head and my paranoia about wetting the bed is making me think I need to go. I’m thinking I may need to talk to a psychologist maybe but would be interested to hear from anyone who has experienced a similar problem.

 

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I would get a mattress protector and release some of your stress about it. Should you have a situation, the mattress is protected. I have had the same issue in the past. You could also consider some form of protection like pull ups.

 

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Since it is so very rare for you and we've been living in stressful times it sounds like You are channeling some pysch to put bladder as a mind body connection.
Agree with wetone get a mattress protector for physical practical reason and psych relief.
I have recently found placing a folded towel under my mid section at night reduces my tossing and any incontinence .I believe it is a psychological signal the towel that I am safe".

 

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For me I have been wetting myself at night and I’m waking up to check to see if I have peed. Many times not yet until early morning is when I fill a disposable diaper. I’m considering cloth diapers and plastic pants since guys who are side sleepers talk about this. Since I’m a side sleeper a cloth diaper catches all and the pants help contain this. My bladder retains urine and I don’t have urges to go. So I guess that during the night when relaxed and asleep I’m voiding. Best of luck to you. I’m new to this incontinence.

 

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SJT, I think that your idea about getting some psychological help is a very good one.

 

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@Sjt001 If it’s mainly an anxiety thing then the best course of action would be to talk to a psychologist or therapist I feel. I can really relate though, whilst I was dry at night by then (bar some heavy dribbling after using the toilet at night), I’d still get super anxious about wetting the bed in my late teens/early 20s. It went away after a while though.

In terms of practical measures (given you do occasionally wet the bed) - I think just having a waterproof sheet below your regular sheet should lessen the cleaning up if there is an accident and perhaps using some disposable protection if you are away from home would give you piece of mind.

I think anything more than the above would really be overkill considering the irregularity of your night time issues.

 

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Sjt001 -- I would definitely retain the services of a psychologist. Sounds like you've built up stress behind it. That's what I had to do. The same thing happened to me. I kept waking up. "Do I have to pee?," I kept asking myself. So now, when I wake up asking myself that question, I review how much liquid I have drunk before going to sleep. It's always the same amount. One bottle of Dasani: 16.9 oz. of plain water. I need to drink that much because of all the pills I need to take before bedtime. So I pee once. If I wake up again (& again), I say to myself: "I already went. No, I don't need to go again."

 

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Thanks for all the prompt replies and advice. It’s good to know other people have dealt with similar issues. I think I will start by seeing a psychologist as a few have suggested. I have tried telling myself that I don’t need to go, but I can’t stop thinking about it until I physically get up and go again. I might try Maymay941’s suggested of placing a towel under my mid section also. Perhaps this will put my mind at ease knowing that there is a bit of protection. Oh and a mattress protector may help with this also.

Thanks again for all the advice!

 

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S,

Have you tried reducing your stress before bedtime and throughout the day?

Reduce muscle tension and calming the mind: Exercise, yoga, mindfulness meditation, belly breathing , etc?

 

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As others have Stated, try reducing stress . You might want to try wearing some sort of protection at night as a calming factor or stress relief. Knowing that you're protected is a stress reliever. It may take several days to get used to the diapers, but after a while you're be calmer. Keep us posted on progress.

 

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@Sjt001
this often happens either by dream or stress
or fatigue and sleep and deeper
You are not the only one in this situation
as WETONE says you should put a sheet under your sheet and why not a pull-up to destress
There's no shame as an adult we pee in the bed
Me too I pee in the bed and here a lot the background and fat in this forum it feels good to talk about

 

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Hi @Sjt001 Sorry. you are feeling stressed about the possibility of wetting the bed. I can understand how that can be stressful and worrying about it add on to the stress. As others have said here to ease some of the stress have a waterproof mattress cover on your bed. If it is happened very infrequently probably no need to wear anything protection wise, unless it makes you feel less stressed.

For my bedwetting since it is infrequent I just use protection on the bed at home and wear night pull-ups for when I am traveling or sometimes when I am feeling stress as I know that can be a trigger for my bedwetting.

Hope all of the suggestions offered in this thread and the group as a whole have helped.

JT

 

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Thanks again for all the replies. Generally I am pretty stress free so no need to reduce stress. I just know that in the past the bed wedding has happened around some stressful events. I actually was finding it hard to sleep again last night so I put a towel underneath me as someone had suggested and I slept fine after that. Just knowing that there was some protection seemed to help. Think I will put a mattress protector underneath and see how that goes.

 

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For me I have been wetting myself at night and I’m waking up to check to see if I have peed. Many times not yet until early morning is when I fill a disposable diaper. I’m considering cloth diapers and plastic pants since guys who are side sleepers talk about this. Since I’m a side sleeper a cloth diaper catches all and the pants help contain this. My bladder retains urine and I don’t have urges to go. So I guess that during the night when relaxed and asleep I’m voiding. Best of luck to you. I’m new to this incontinence.

You might want to record the sounds of you breathing at night for a couple nights. sleep apnea can cause bed wetting.