Managing the emotional aspect of incontinence

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Some on here talk about their spouse being supportive which is great. I’m sorta wondering tho how I as a 33 year old guy am supposed to meet my miss right since I’ve now got oab. Even if I don’t complain and can manage it how is a woman going to respond when I say “by the way I can’t control my bladder and wear diapers”.

It would be nice to have a support group in person to talk to others dealing with this.

 

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It would be nice to have a support group in person to talk to others dealing with this.[/quote]

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Start one!

 

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Solid advice. Thing is I wouldn’t know where to start. Let’s say I get a hospital or community center to donate space what else do I need to do? Set up an llc or non profit to keep myself out of liability trouble? Arrange for a coordinator or “mc” type person who preferably is a counselor or a physiologist or something.

Even if I do all that how do I get people to come? How do I get the attention of the 20 or 30 something’s who suffer from this? While my group would be open to helping all ages, having a network of active folks around my age who have managed to stay active in spite of it would be great.

 

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I’m secure with my albeit intermittent diaper wearing. I say that but always use the handicap stall at the gym except for short exposures. My wife is a neuro nurse so adult diapers are part of her profession. My adult children, daughter is an RN and son is pre-med, have seen many embarrassing moments throughout their years. Now they always give me time and space for “dad to change.” If I’m ever laid up, I’ll take Sanctura and have to emotionally adapt to being changed. It’s been a long process of adaptation. My shared office space has a toilet in it now. I’ve not always been this fortunate. When I’ve staffed some pharmacies alone, I diapered up before everyone left. I did not have the option to hold it, even if I could. In my office now, I have not missed the toilet yet. My team has seen me rush to see John. I keep a set of scrubs at work-just in case I don’t make it. A diaper bag in my car, diapers in my gym bag, and travel with a self stuffing back pack for supplies. I think I’m prepared at least for today. Tomorrow has its own issues. I’ll face them then.