Hi I am 27 and still bed wetting, it’s not every night but I do, it all started when I was 10 I had stopped bed wetting up until I was 10 and it started I couldn’t understand it, it was when the house for a boarding house and I thought the first day was a mistake but it has not stopped since then, it has limited me that I can’t do sleep overs I am very conscious of my every night I spend outside my mum thinks it’s spiritual and I have not prayed enough, I think I have prayed and fasted but seeing a doctor for things like this are not really common where I am from and so it’s usually termed spiritual, it’s 17 years after I don’t know the cause of my issue and I can’t even date anyone appropriately because I do not know how to communicate that I am 27 and I still bed wet or get myself out of a sleep over I do not know if there is help here but I joined because I think there is, please help me on how to go about this condition of mine
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Same. 27yo, bedwetting my entire life, used to come and go in increments.
I researched it and apparently there are several things that apply to me that may apply to you that decreases ADH (Anti-Diuretic Hormone) levels and increases chances of wetting episodes: high salt intake, lemon/lime, and high water intake via fluid.
For the past year and a half, I have stopped drinking lemonade and lemon-lime soda, restricted the amount of salty foods I eat, and substituted the 64oz of daily recommended water intake for a ton of fruit, which can do the job of hydration a lot better. The only liquid I take is during meals so I avoid constipation.
This doesn't work during my periods, and sometimes it's hard for me to stay away from my favorite foods and drinks, but for the most part this helps keep my bed dry and my washer machine open for my actual clothes instead of my sheets everyday.
Hope this helps.
I researched it and apparently there are several things that apply to me that may apply to you that decreases ADH (Anti-Diuretic Hormone) levels and increases chances of wetting episodes: high salt intake, lemon/lime, and high water intake via fluid.
For the past year and a half, I have stopped drinking lemonade and lemon-lime soda, restricted the amount of salty foods I eat, and substituted the 64oz of daily recommended water intake for a ton of fruit, which can do the job of hydration a lot better. The only liquid I take is during meals so I avoid constipation.
This doesn't work during my periods, and sometimes it's hard for me to stay away from my favorite foods and drinks, but for the most part this helps keep my bed dry and my washer machine open for my actual clothes instead of my sheets everyday.
Hope this helps.
seemee,
It is not clear where you are from, and realistically, it isn't important. It sounds like whether it is normal or not, you need to go see a Doctor about this issue. It sounds like a Doctor can rule out the possibility that it is a spiritual issue.
We each have challenges we face in life. Fasting and prayer to draw closer to Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ to receive the strength you need to deal with your challenge is great, but Heavenly Father blessed us with medical technology to improve our lives.
Who knows what a Doctor will tell you? Perhaps you will be dealing with this issue for the rest of your life, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't have a life. I am sure there are women out there who would be willing to accept you as you are. They may expect you to wear products to stay dry at night... you should probably consider that for your own peace of mind. It may be that a Doctor can help out in that area as well?
I have different struggles, but I can tell you life is worth living and you need to stop living in fear because you have a medical issue, and get out there and live.
Wet-Again
It is not clear where you are from, and realistically, it isn't important. It sounds like whether it is normal or not, you need to go see a Doctor about this issue. It sounds like a Doctor can rule out the possibility that it is a spiritual issue.
We each have challenges we face in life. Fasting and prayer to draw closer to Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ to receive the strength you need to deal with your challenge is great, but Heavenly Father blessed us with medical technology to improve our lives.
Who knows what a Doctor will tell you? Perhaps you will be dealing with this issue for the rest of your life, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't have a life. I am sure there are women out there who would be willing to accept you as you are. They may expect you to wear products to stay dry at night... you should probably consider that for your own peace of mind. It may be that a Doctor can help out in that area as well?
I have different struggles, but I can tell you life is worth living and you need to stop living in fear because you have a medical issue, and get out there and live.
Wet-Again
I am a Christian and part of life for EVERYONE, regardless of belief is potential heath problems. Yours and mine, and others on here is the loss of bladder control. Praying about it will help if it's God's will. In my case, it hasn't changed the problem, but it has helped me to deal with the stigma, the stress, the out-of -pocket expense, embarrassment etc.
I was the LAST person on earth that I'd have expected to have this problem, but I see ways I believe He (God) has prepared me to deal with this. To me, a diaper is not the problem, it's the solution, Trust me, this issue is very common. People just don't talk about it. However, with incontinence products available in just about every grocery store, and literally every drug store, the problem is wide-spread.
I was the LAST person on earth that I'd have expected to have this problem, but I see ways I believe He (God) has prepared me to deal with this. To me, a diaper is not the problem, it's the solution, Trust me, this issue is very common. People just don't talk about it. However, with incontinence products available in just about every grocery store, and literally every drug store, the problem is wide-spread.
joey
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Bedwetting is caused by various reason / conditions from physical and mental and emotional. If possible you should be checked out by a doctor to rule out any serious health issues. Mostly there isn’t for it is just about your physical makeup while sleeping. Strong mental and emotional issues like stress and anxiety can cause bedwetting. True family and friends and mates who love and care about aren’t going to have a no problem with your bed wetting or how you manage it. I assume you manage it with diapers/nappies over night. Bedwetting isn’t as uncommon as people think. I have always been a bedwetter and wear diapers every night. I am also in diapers 24/7. Getting peaceful and restful sleep
In key and there is nothing shameful about needing diapers. Do allow needing diaper be an excuse not to be involved and do sleepovers. I like travel and I order to do that I travel with others to split expenses. Shared accommodations all my family and friends know I am
In a diaper and most have seen me in just my diaper when it comes to shared accommodations and staying overnight. Anyone having an issue isn’t a friend or family member I spend my time with. Dating is challenging that’s for sure. Even with the best situation. But if you don’t try you will never met that special person. You have to be willing to put yourself out there to be vulnerable and hurt. And yes along the way you are going to get hurt. Not everything will be kind so you weed through those individuals to find the gems. I had a difficult dating life. I was everyone’s friend /buddy/ mate, however I did meet someone amazing who doesn’t have an issue with me in diapers and she is my wife. I will admit I had very little dating experience prior to meeting her. Not being good at dating didn’t stop me from be social and going out. I was so nervous the first time my wife saw me in just my diaper I thought I would lose her because the nerve made my wet like crazy. She even stepped in to change me. You have to keep trying in life
First things first, have you seen a doctor? As joey says, you really should just in case there is a more serious underlying medical issue.
I wet the bed as a child until I was 6 so was still in nappies at night and was then dry for 5 years. I then started wetting the bed again when I was 11. I was the eldest of four siblings all dry before me. Our family nanny thought it best that I go back into nappies again to save on wet beds, wet pyjamas and disturbed sleep. Back then it was terry nappies and plastic pants and she would change me into a nappy after evening bath time and before she retired for the evening. This meant that I would be in a nappy when playing or watching tv before bedtime. That was a bit embarrassing at first but I soon got used to it. None of my siblings ever made fun of me and our nanny was always very understanding and supportive and told me I’d grow out of it. I was still in nappies aged 14 when I eventually became reliably dry. All was well for the next 12 years but then I suffered a spinal injury playing rugby and I started to lose bladder control. Initially just at night and a few times a week but it soon got worse so I wet every night. I saw my GP and a urologist and was also referred to the local specialist nurse continence adviser who was fantastic and really suppose through this. I tried meds which did not work and catheters that gave me UTIs so in the end she suggested and I agreed that it would be best if I went back to wearing nappies. I had told her I had worn them as a teenager so this wasn’t really too much of a big deal. She also said that they would be supplied FOC on the NHS (I’m in the UK). At first it was very isolating as I was embarrassed and scared to stay away overnight or form relationships but in time I became more comfortable and confident in wearing nappies at night although I still kept it a secret which made staying away still a bit stressful - packing nappies, nappy bags, a plastic sheet and changing. But better a wet nappy than a wet bed. Forming relationships was challenging. I did have some but they never really progressed as I was too embarrassed at having to wear nappies. One girlfriend was a nurse and she was ok about it. When I was 30 I met the person who was to become my wife of now 31 years. I knew she was the one for me and so I told her straightaway that I had a problem with wetting the bed as a result of my injury and that I had to wear nappies at night. I knew I had to tell her before we got intimate. I just said ‘I need to tell you something and it’s a bit embarrassing…’ and told her what the problem was, how it came about and what I did to manage it and that I hoped that would not put her off having relationship. She was amazing about it, totally understanding and never made a big deal although she did refer to them as ‘passion killers’! Over the years my spinal issues worsened and I eventually lost all bladder control. I now have no feeling of needing to wee or actually weeing (other than feel my nappy get wet!) so wear adult nappies 24/7 to manage my incontinence. That has presented some challenges around socialising, working, travelling etc but nothing insurmountable. Just good planning and regular changing! The latter can be stressful in itself. I try and use the disabled facilities but have had occasions when I’ve been asked why I needed to or was using them as I am not visibly disabled. Now my nappies are just part of my everyday clothing and I am hardly ever conscious of actually wearing them, to the point that I have to remember to check how wet I am and change regularly to avoid leaks. No one has ever asked me if I am wearing a nappy. Sometimes I think we are more worried that it is obvious than it really is.
Incontinence is a medical issue that can be effectively managed. Find a product that works best for you and can handle the level of your incontinence. If that is adult nappies/diapers think about what a difference that makes for you, giving you the confidence and ability to get on with life. As I said before, better a wet nappy than wet clothes. Check, change and clean regularly, plan ahead and prepare. Carry/pack spare nappies, nappy bags, wipes, talc.
Don’t let it stop you socialising - just plan and prepare - and don’t let it stop you looking for and forming relationships. When appropriate tell the other person about it and how you manage it. If they can’t accept it they are not the right person for you. I knew my wife was a keeper when I told her and she has been amazing ever since. She will make sure I have a dry nappy on if we are going out and will tell me if she thinks my nappy is obviously wet and needs changing. You will find the right person for you. Best wishes.
I wet the bed as a child until I was 6 so was still in nappies at night and was then dry for 5 years. I then started wetting the bed again when I was 11. I was the eldest of four siblings all dry before me. Our family nanny thought it best that I go back into nappies again to save on wet beds, wet pyjamas and disturbed sleep. Back then it was terry nappies and plastic pants and she would change me into a nappy after evening bath time and before she retired for the evening. This meant that I would be in a nappy when playing or watching tv before bedtime. That was a bit embarrassing at first but I soon got used to it. None of my siblings ever made fun of me and our nanny was always very understanding and supportive and told me I’d grow out of it. I was still in nappies aged 14 when I eventually became reliably dry. All was well for the next 12 years but then I suffered a spinal injury playing rugby and I started to lose bladder control. Initially just at night and a few times a week but it soon got worse so I wet every night. I saw my GP and a urologist and was also referred to the local specialist nurse continence adviser who was fantastic and really suppose through this. I tried meds which did not work and catheters that gave me UTIs so in the end she suggested and I agreed that it would be best if I went back to wearing nappies. I had told her I had worn them as a teenager so this wasn’t really too much of a big deal. She also said that they would be supplied FOC on the NHS (I’m in the UK). At first it was very isolating as I was embarrassed and scared to stay away overnight or form relationships but in time I became more comfortable and confident in wearing nappies at night although I still kept it a secret which made staying away still a bit stressful - packing nappies, nappy bags, a plastic sheet and changing. But better a wet nappy than a wet bed. Forming relationships was challenging. I did have some but they never really progressed as I was too embarrassed at having to wear nappies. One girlfriend was a nurse and she was ok about it. When I was 30 I met the person who was to become my wife of now 31 years. I knew she was the one for me and so I told her straightaway that I had a problem with wetting the bed as a result of my injury and that I had to wear nappies at night. I knew I had to tell her before we got intimate. I just said ‘I need to tell you something and it’s a bit embarrassing…’ and told her what the problem was, how it came about and what I did to manage it and that I hoped that would not put her off having relationship. She was amazing about it, totally understanding and never made a big deal although she did refer to them as ‘passion killers’! Over the years my spinal issues worsened and I eventually lost all bladder control. I now have no feeling of needing to wee or actually weeing (other than feel my nappy get wet!) so wear adult nappies 24/7 to manage my incontinence. That has presented some challenges around socialising, working, travelling etc but nothing insurmountable. Just good planning and regular changing! The latter can be stressful in itself. I try and use the disabled facilities but have had occasions when I’ve been asked why I needed to or was using them as I am not visibly disabled. Now my nappies are just part of my everyday clothing and I am hardly ever conscious of actually wearing them, to the point that I have to remember to check how wet I am and change regularly to avoid leaks. No one has ever asked me if I am wearing a nappy. Sometimes I think we are more worried that it is obvious than it really is.
Incontinence is a medical issue that can be effectively managed. Find a product that works best for you and can handle the level of your incontinence. If that is adult nappies/diapers think about what a difference that makes for you, giving you the confidence and ability to get on with life. As I said before, better a wet nappy than wet clothes. Check, change and clean regularly, plan ahead and prepare. Carry/pack spare nappies, nappy bags, wipes, talc.
Don’t let it stop you socialising - just plan and prepare - and don’t let it stop you looking for and forming relationships. When appropriate tell the other person about it and how you manage it. If they can’t accept it they are not the right person for you. I knew my wife was a keeper when I told her and she has been amazing ever since. She will make sure I have a dry nappy on if we are going out and will tell me if she thinks my nappy is obviously wet and needs changing. You will find the right person for you. Best wishes.
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