Boy am I dumb

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Maybe it's pride but looking back before i bought mattress pads and continence products (which I'm still trying to get used to) - i can't believe how much money I've spent sitting at the Laundromat morning's and nights when I had night episodes.

I got used to it as i would put my sheets in, drive to dunkin for my morming iced coffee, then switch the load over and basically just sit and wait and text message friends.

I wasted so much money, time, miles. Just for pride.

 

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Now you know a better way. All good, in life we all learn all the time. Now you found a easier way and can still get your coffee.
Congrats

 

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It takes time getting use to wearing substantial protection products at night, but you will get use to it. I for one can't even think about getting to sleep unless I am very well protected.

 

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Come on @HOneeecombs, you're not dumb! You're right, It is just pride. I think we've all been there and done that at one time or another. You're just on a learning curve and you're beginning to know the way to go! We've all gotta learn sooner or later. It's when you do the same damn mistake over and over is what's dumb! And yes, you know that wearing much better protection is the way to go. Granted it does take some getting used to. At first it feels like you must be wearing armor! That's the way I felt when I began wearing protection for day use. But it sure beats the alternative! But you'll get accustomed to it and just think of how you're now going to spend all that free time NOT sitting in the laundromat waiting for everything to get washed and dried! You can still hit the Dunkin' for your iced coffee for old times sake! I can appreciate all the time, money and energy that's been spent but at least now you know that there is something more suitable. Think of all the people who haven't learned what you have. And if you still have doubts or questions you know where to find us!

 

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I agree there a slow learning curve along with the stigma.

 

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@Honeeecombs We do and try all kinds of things when night (or day) issues first appear. For me my first solution to my bedwetting was taking a large yard trash bag, cutting it to make it bigger and placing that on my mattress under the sheet. After an accident or two I added a large beach towel to act as a soaker since I found out even if I didn't wet much with there just being my shorts and the sheet not much was absorbed and it kinda pooled being just on the plastic.

As mentioned perviously in different posts I don't feel that I wet frequently enough to feel the need to move to wearing night protection. However with that said I did learn of that benefit in college. During times of stress and/or over tired I tend to bedwet more frequently. In college there were plenty of stressful and over tired nights. New semester, finals week, big projects due, and the like. After a few times of peeing my bed multiple times in a week I looked for something that could help in taking away the stress of dealing with a wet bed that was only adding to the stress and over tiredness that caused the wetting in the first place.

That was when I embarrassingly, and feeling ashamed tried wearing protection (GoodNites) at night during those times. I total get the pride thing. I felt defeated that I had to go to that solution but in my mind it was the best solution for the situation. I had tried GoodNites perviously for various other situation and to me, at the time, they were hella embarrassing, but less embarrassing than getting an adult product.

After a while I just automatically would start wearing my night protection the week before finals or if there were other known stressful events coming up and keep wearing until finals were over or the event had passed. I still felt embarrassed and ashamed but knew they were doing what they were intended to do, keep my boxers and bed dry.

So yeah I get it and I can tell you do too. Keep up the progress and know that those feelings are natural and honestly expected. No one would want to wear protection if they didn't have to. So those feeling and having pride make total sense.

JT

 

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Goodnites is a product for children, right? How did you fit in them as an adult?

 

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Hi Snow, It's true Goodnites is for children but according to the packaging and the advertising, I think the largest size can fit someone weighing 150 pounds. So a smaller adult who doesn't have big hips or a big rear can probably fit into them.
I have seen quite a few kids at the nature center who could easily weigh near 150 pounds. Of course we're talking about fifth graders and I've even seen some larger fourth graders. It's really amazing but kids do come in all sizes these days. Hosting several thousand kids a year on these trips you do see a huge variety of sizes, ethnicities and nationalities. I have subbed a few times at high schools and some of those guys were even bigger and taller than me!:O Definitely want to stay on their good side!

 

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Goodnites is a product for children, right? How did you fit in them as an adult?

I know I fit in them until I was 14 and started to outgrow bedwetting. I'm 27 so this would have been around 2006-2007 when I stopped having accidents.

Goodnites used to be huge on me - I remember they went over my belly button. I don't know if there the same as they were when I was younger - but they fit.

 

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@snow You are right, GoodNites are marketed for kids and teens. Back in college I was average height 5'10" but skinny and as @billliveshere said people with no hips or flat rears could fit them. I have no hips and a flat rear and my waist was like 28-30 back then.

I think they were bigger back then. These were the old GoodNites the ones that were white. I used the XLG size intended for teens. While they did not feel too big on me like they did for @Honeeecombs they did not feel tight or too small either. Also I think that because when I wet I do not have a flood like a total bladders worth of pee come out that helped make them work for me. I doubt they could handle a full young adult's bladder worth of pee coming out at one time. I wet enough to where there is a wet area on the bed where my mid section is and my boxers or shorts are wet, usually just on the front and one side depending on how I was sleeping when I peed.

But yes they definitely are marketed for kids, I was just lucky enough to have a body shape and size that allowed me to use them. This was only during my 20 something years. They did eventually start to leak or tear as I was putting them on and I had to find something else.

 

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@Honeeecombs I also feel the same way about not using protection and seeing a doctor sooner about my after dribble and urge issues. I'd get through an insane amount of laundry and whilst I was at university that would end up costing me a lot when I'd have to use laundrettes. Plus, there was the constant urine smell in the background I was very self-conscious of and was always anxious if I was sharing a room with anyone. I think though that it's a big step to use embarrassing products to help contain an issue and/or talk to doctors about such sensitive issues, especially as in my experience most doctors don't really show any warmth or understanding. I think it also comes with age as well. In my teens/early 20s, suffering in silence and pretending nothing was up was certainly preferable so don't feel stupid about denying there was an issue..

Re Goodnites (or DryNites as they're called here), the largest size comes up quite large (surprisingly not all that much smaller than the medium Tena pull ups) and still fit me okayish at 29. I'd run out of protection when I was staying out of town unexpectedly at Christmas and they were the only product the grocery store near the hotel sold that I figured may fit and given some old jumpers from when I was in my mid-teens still fit well thought I'd give them a try. Given that my main issue on a day to day basis (before everything kicked into overdrive over the last few months) was after dribble, they did a decent job of containing leaks. Recently I've found they make good boosters as they don't create an insane amount of bulk under my main protection like other things I've used. I wouldn't trust them for anything major though. One bonus is that they're really easy to get here in regular stores so using them alongside my main protection means I don't have to put in big online orders all the time. Plus, they're so much cheaper than the Tena pull ups and the packs are less bulky when travelling.

 

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Well I've got to put my two cents in here as well having read J.T.'s and SciFi's comments. I have no bottom to speak of and hips that aren't too curvy and am 5' 8" tall so I can probably wear them as well. Since they are made for a child's bladder capacity I don't know how long they would serve effectively, though.
And @Sci_Fi_Fan, I can see the validity in using the Drynites as a booster in your main protection. Just tear the sides open and lie it out flat inside and voila! A quick and easy booster! A good back-up for any occasion! And you're right, they are so much easier to get in the run-of-the-mill stores than something like the Tena or other premium brands that you have to order. If you're in a pinch, just hop over to the nearest supermarket and pick up a packet of Drynites or Goodnites and you're good to go! They will hold you until you can get to your usual supply. Makes perfect sense to me! However if any of us weighed 275 pounds and had a waist of 42 inches, then not so much!