Twinkle, I know what you mean,I struggle also at excepting incontinence, but just keep trying to find a goods Dr/. They may help you. I find if I pray a lot it helps me most days. I don't figure that you are female. There are a lot of good products out there, that can help a lot to keep you dry so you can do the things you want.You will get some good feedback from members on this site. I am female and try my best to stay positive, and that can be hard at times. keep smiling !!!!!!