They say "No question is a stupid question", so here I go...

[Wet-Again]

As I've commented several times, I am new to being incontinent. I am still figuring things out.

I tried the Assurance brand Pullup, and it seems to disintegrate once you pull it up and down a couple times to use the restroom. It is the leg seams that fall apart for me.

I have a package of the Assurance Briefs which look pretty nice, but last night suggested they are not designed for heavy voids.

Perhaps I am missing something, but once I put the diaper on and adjust the tapes, I feel like I am "locked in" and from that point forward any business I do is in the diaper. The diapers do not seem to stay in place that well when I first put them on. I can only imagine if I tried treating them like a pullup what would happen.

Am I correct that once I am in the diaper, I do my business in the diaper?

 

[Dennis]

It's up to you, but if you do not at least try to get to the bathroom, your skin problems and other issues will increase. If budget is not a concern, a better quality product might be a good idea.

Keep in mind that there will be days in which you aren't able to get to a bathroom to change when you really need to. I never intentionally 'use' my brief - if I can make it to the bathroom (my problem stems from a head injury; much of the time, my urges are normal and I can go long stretches of time - 3 to 6 hours) with no problems, but at least twice a day, my bladder empties itself as if it had a mind of its own, so wearing protection isn't a choice for me. I would be a shut-in, otherwise. My point is this: for me, it isn't usually worth wearing a truly premium product, but the lower-end options aren't adequate for my level of incontinence, so I wear something that can handle at least 2 episodes. The other day, I was running errands and it was one of those days with unexpected delays and changes of plan, By the time I got to a place with a private bathroom, the capacity of the brief I had chosen to wear was just about exceeded. With the unpredictability of my problem, it would not have been a good thing to have 'used' the product intentionally. To me, it's there for when I can't prevent the loss of control.

I wish you well.

 

[Wet-Again]

Thank you for your response. I appreciate it greatly.

I have always delayed using the restroom for as long as possible. I ignored the prompting that I need to go to the point where when I realize I need to go, it is going to be a problem.

I will be trying a better brief in the near future, when the ones I have are used up. Part of the problem that I believe I have in anatomical, and another part is 'mental'? When I lose control, the volume of urine floods the front of the brief and the urine starts flowing up and leaks out. The 'mental' aspect is my lack of awareness that I need to go. I guess I need to set a timers to go every 90 minutes or so, maybe 60?

I have several medical issues that just developed recently. I am hoping to get them more under control in the near future?

Wet-Again