The In-Laws

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So my wifes parents are coming to visit us, and will be staying in our apartment from the 23rd through the 27th of next month. They dont know about me having to wear diapers, but Im sure they might find out on this trip. I dont know how they will react or how they will think of me afterwards, which has me on edge. Should I confront them and tell them about it or dont say anything and just hope they dont find out. I have yet to talk to my wife about this, which I should but its hard for me because its a little bit embarassing. I know its ways away but I thought I might ask everyone early so I can come up with some kind of game plan, so please if anyone has some kind of advice it will help alot, thanks.

 

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Why do they even have to know?
Make a special effort If at all possible to keep it a secret. No one should know except your wife. Good luck.

 

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Keep it between you and your wife. Only say something. If they find out

 

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When I went away to a hotel with my sister I was petrified of her seeing my large soaking wet pads so my game plan was to safely store my wet pads and dispose of them when I got home (it was only for one night). A few months later I showed her one of my large dry pads as I don't think she quite understood the severity of my problem and she was sympathetic albeit shocked. I think you have to go with what feels comfortable for yourself. Good luck but whatever happens people are more understanding than you think.

 

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It's really none of their business. I would not say anything. If you are not all living in a studio apartment you can manage to be discreet.

 

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How do you know one of them does not wear "diapers themselves? Keep it private.

 

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I agree with the majority here. You don't have to tell anyone.

 

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I would say to not say anything unless they notice or find out then explain it. But should definitely talk to wife about what to do if one of them asks her about it if they notice. Most of my family knows and my wife's family knows as well but they only know because her mother and her brother have lived with us for a few months and both noticed

 

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I will add my voice to the chorus advising that you do not need to discuss your situation with your in-laws unless it comes up. I also agree that you should mention your concerns to your wife so she is aware. I know it can be difficult to talk about, even with a spouse, but you will feel better knowing you shared your concerns. I can say it took nearly four years for my in-laws to find out, and they only found out due to a bowel accident in their presence. I went on to explain my situation in an open and honest (though super embarrassing) manner. I think they took it better than I hoped due to the fact I had kept it a secret for so long.

 

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No need to explain your health problems with others. If you were a guest would you look through cabinets and closets, then find adult diapers... and immediately ask all kinds of questions? If you did... you would not be a guest in that household for very long.


Keep your problem discreet as possible but if somebody else is going through your stuff and finds a bag of adult diapers... I would ask "what were you doing going through my stuff?"

 

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I agree with all who have posted. No need to tell them before if you don't want to. Definitely talk about your conners with your wife.

I suspect that in the event that one of the in-laws saw your protection they would go to your wife and asked about it before saying anything to you. So good to have her understand your concerns and how you would like it handled should they find out.

 

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It’s harder when you visit overnight. A huge wet diaper in a small wastebasket is pretty obvious. I admit I have occasionally carried a wet diaper out myself (in a bag made for dog poop)in my luggage.

 

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Overnight in a private residence is a tension event for me. I prefer the privacy of a motel if away from home. It's an easy decision for me.

 

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Thank you all for the advice, overall the visit was good not sure as to if they know but if they do they didn't make any comments. I did have one embarrassing indecent however. We were all watching a movie and I happen to fall asleep on the couch and then once I woke up I had found out that I had over flown. Leaking from the back and leaving a huge wet spot which is now a stain on the coach. The good thing though is that at the time her parents were so they don't know for sure as to what caused it. We just chocked it up to that we had split something.