Telling my partner

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By the time I decided to tell, what is now my wife of 37 years...she already had an idea of what the problem was. If the relationship has progressed to a point of really caring for eachother, how you 'frame it' will be important to how he reacts. Needing to support absorbent protection when you sleep is a small price to pay for having an important relationship. If he doesn't get it...it is probably a blessing in disguise, since no road is without its bumps of some sort or another and this will be a good test of the kind of guy he is.

Couldn't agree more.

 

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How did telling him go??

 

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Inquiring minds want to know.

 

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Nosy ones, too. Actually, people are concerned. But tell us when YOU are ready, and only if you want to.

 

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pretty common for people to post a question here and then ghost after getting a bunch of responses...probably means it went well and they don't need more advice.

It's weird for me. My bedwetting started after marriage so my wife found out when I did lol. Now, years later and so used to wearing diapers, I am totally at peace with it (don't love the daytime issues, but I no longer really care about night time issues).....if, god forbid something happened to end my marriage and I found myself with a new girlfriend I don't think I'd even care that much about telling someone....it's just a matter-of-fact thing about me. I'd probably be a bit nervous about rejection if I really liked someone, but I guess that would just tell me everything I needed to know about her.

 

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Yep, indeed it would.
Good post. Thank you.

 

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Darn! Why didn't I think of that? Great post.

 

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@MikeJames Yes, I realize that. Unfortunately, that means that more people will likely come along with the same question, and if they find this post, not find any resolution, not get any reassurance, post their own version, ghost, and repeat the cycle. I was hoping the OP might have email notifications on and be reminded to actually conclude the thread.

 

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@msuspartan I agree...it's annoying...I just like to think of the possible silver lining that someone got resolved....I do wish they'd just pop in though and close it out.