Telling my partner

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Hi everyone Im about to tell my boyfriend that I suffer from nocturnal enuresis and my anxiety is through the roof. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to go about this (I am telling him over text)

 

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Just be straight up honest. Depending on length of relationship it probably is less an issue than your mind is making it out to be

 

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Ouch. Never good in text, never. Tell in person so you and he can read each others cues, synpathy, doubt etc. Bad form on txt unless he lives elsewhere. If you hide behind texting then he really isnt your boyfriend.

 

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Sorry. Read over text part. I agree w Doug. NEVER in text.

 

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Please don't text. If you don't live together, consider a park bench at 8 feet apart, or something. Or even consider video conference. Consider waiting, although this Covid19 crisis will NOT be over by Easter. Safety is important, and you can explain - later - why you delayed.

 

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I will also add just be honest, like everyone is saying. If someone doesn't accept it, they may be a problem in other areas. I hope that he understands, and he may, especially if he truly loves you. I wish you well. I can't say not to be nervous, that is natural, but just be honest.

 

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Sending the message by text is a bad idea. Telling him in person will allow you to follow up immediately with how your condition is manageable.

 

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I agree with what wiser people than me have said re the matter. Facing it will be the hardest part, living with the outcome will be easier. As they say, eat the frog first, ie get the hardest part over

 

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To any decent person in a relationship why should this be a problem

 

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I can and know how difficult it would be, several here have cross that bridge. Consider this, be where you are comfortable, tell him I have something I want you to know. Give him a note explaining this illness, let the note explain details, that way you do not have to go into detail about what it is. If he is the right man for you, he will hug you and say, I will support you in anyway I can

 

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I had to tell my wife she was understanding just wants me to use protection to things dry.Good luck.

 

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If he's already your boyfriend you've waited to long.
When I was single and went out with someone and there was "chemistry" I'd always tell them in detail over the phone (very important to do it over the phone). Once they had time to process everything and called back I knew my incon would not be an issue.
It's extremely important to not minimize anything. I use humor when I tell someone and when they see me joking about my situation it makes it way easier to talk about it.
Remember, people see us as we see ourselves and if you're awkward talking about it I guarantee they will be as well!!!

 

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I can agree with over the phone in very early stage but after a relationship has developed dont you think in person is best

 

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I can agree with over the phone in very early stage but after a relationship has developed dont you think in person is best

If the other person wants to then sure, I was sharing what has worked best to initially tell.

 

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The best advice is undoubtedly from those with experience

 

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As my illness progresses, its been no issues to keep who I need informed, as the Urologist or PA is more then happy to explain and break it down, in fact my PA sent me a very good explanation of my illness in a email after she reread my urodynamics report. I have a wonderful medical team. And homecare team

 

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You could wait until april 1st to tell him. If it doesnt go well you could just say "april fools!".

 

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How did this work out for you? We are here for you, if needed.

 

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By the time I decided to tell, what is now my wife of 37 years...she already had an idea of what the problem was. If the relationship has progressed to a point of really caring for eachother, how you 'frame it' will be important to how he reacts. Needing to support absorbent protection when you sleep is a small price to pay for having an important relationship. If he doesn't get it...it is probably a blessing in disguise, since no road is without its bumps of some sort or another and this will be a good test of the kind of guy he is.

 

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Honestly I wouldn't text him I would tell him face to face and just be honest tell him it's not your fault just one of those things. That's what I said to my wife when we first met she's cool with it

Steve