Still findind incontinence acceptance difficult

[Inco24seven]

Hi after almost eight years I still find this incontinence journey extremley difficult. Unless there is a miracle I will still be wearing diapers 24/7 for the rest of my days.
Only the other morning I was changing my soaked overnight Tena Slip and I thought I have at least twenty more years of this If I still cant come to terms with my incontinence after eight years when does acceptance start ?? I still get embarrassed when talking to health care professionals about my problem .

 

[hbic60]

First thing which has to be done: accept yourself how you are! For myself wearing diapers after my urinary IC started about 3 years ago was somehow getting back my freedom - diapers gave me the possibility to continue my active and social life in nearly the same way as before, and that‘s something very positive and I am very thankful for the good products that exist - comfortable, discreet and absorbent. Additionally my wife supports me perfectly telling and showing me that I remain totally the same for her, not depending on the kind of underwear I need. I learned quickly that being ashamed, especially in a medical setting, is a bad idea - they have seen so many things and incontinence is nothing very rare…
I keep my head up, of course I keep as discreet as reasonable about my IC, but if someone notes - who cares? It’s a medical condition I have to live with and not someone‘s else concern; and by the way: I never ever had any negative reaction if someone (family or friends) got aware of my condition, only understanding and supporting comments!

 

[sandiego]

I'd never heard of Tena Slip until this post. Is it preferable to Depends diapers? Or are they pretty much the same? As far as being incontinent, i agree, it plays with your mind. I know there are worse things in life but knowing doesn't help. Probably the best thing is meeting and sharing with others in similar condition. It has helped me. There are support groups out there.

 

[Issac]

Hi after almost eight years I still find this incontinence journey extremley difficult. Unless there is a miracle I will still be wearing diapers 24/7 for the rest of my days.
Only the other morning I was changing my soaked overnight Tena Slip and I thought I have at least twenty more years of this If I still cant come to terms with my incontinence after eight years when does acceptance start ?? I still get embarrassed when talking to health care professionals about my problem .

I am in the same boat, after over 20 years there are some days that are harder then the harder days. Excepting this as your daily life doesn't seem fair, and all the time getting in the way of how lflife used to be.
We can never really except it, but you do move on, only those who we choose to include in our journey will ever know, and understand our struggle. Hopefully those that we let in will be as helpful and caring too.

 

[Inco24seven]

I'd never heard of Tena Slip until this post. Is it preferable to Depends diapers? Or are they pretty much the same? As far as being incontinent, i agree, it plays with your mind. I know there are worse things in life but knowing doesn't help. Probably the best thing is meeting and sharing with others in similar condition. It has helped me. There are support groups out there.

Hi Tena Slip Maxi what I use 24/7 are tape on briefs, similar to nappies. They are for both bladder and bowel incontinence. I am just bladder incontinent, no bladder control at all. I think Tena is a Swedish company. I get an allowance every month . With me I always go close to using up my monthly allowance , but never too close that I run out. I find that I use about four or five slips a day, I would normally use a booster pad just to extend the life of my diaper . The Tena diapers are supplied through the NHS on how much I use. With me I get allocated 12 packets each containing 15 diapers a month.. Some regions supply other brands like Abena but my region of the UK get supplies of Tena

 

[hbic60]

Regularly my daytime diaper is the Attends Flex (8), a belt type diaper. If I‘m out for a long walk or a bicycle tour I prefer as a „heavy duty“ diaper a Tena Proskin Slip Maxi; often, if I start with that one in the morning, it brings me reliably through the whole day until I change in the evening into my nighttime diaper (Abena M4). The Tena holds a lot!

 

[Inco24seven]

I am in the same boat, after over 20 years there are some days that are harder then the harder days. Excepting this as your daily life doesn't seem fair, and all the time getting in the way of how lflife used to be.
We can never really except it, but you do move on, only those who we choose to include in our journey will ever know, and understand our struggle. Hopefully those that we let in will be as helpful and caring too.

Thank you for your taking the time to reply , you still find it hard after 20 years living with incontinence !! maybe there is hope for me yet. About two months ago I had to have a minor operation on my stomach area. After a lot of thought on my behalf I decided to wear my Tena diaper for the relatively short operation . I was just going to wear a pull up , the hospital knew about my incontinence anyway. I was glad i did so, during the operation I wet myself , not too much but I am not sure if a pull up would have copied with my accident. Anyway I let one of the nurses know and it wasn't such a big deal. So maybe things might be getting a tiny bit better , hopefuly