Sad but hopeful

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Hi all. I wrote about my wife on a thread here. (married to Diapers) well, after 20+ years, it's ended. She found another guy. I really do hope she will be happier. Me? Looks like the singles club. Good luck finding a good person who is caring enough to look past the padding. The Olympic peninsula is small. But I did my very best.
 
Sorry about your loss but single life isn’t necessary all bad. Do be very careful of the singles clubs-online or in person. Especially in the first year of your new life. As for the diapers, they’re part of you. Be up front and open about it but don’t focus on it. There are better days ahead.
 
Very sorry to hear this. I’m sure Divorce is tough thing. I’m going through some ups and downs in my marriage (mostly downs) I understand how frustrating that can be.
 
I would suggest letting your partner know all about the diapers after you are married just because you can ruin a relationship if you're not too careful.. Just get to know your partner before anything and also exercise unconditional love and care with your partner and let her know after you get to know her super well
 
@Steven1980

Steven, Sorry to hear of your bad news. Difficult times, but feel free to message us and talk if needed.
 
I would suggest finding a special woman who is a certified nurse's assistant and I bet you that she'll treat you like a KING!
 
Thanks guys. Beemonerprovo1, I see your side but if I do get to know someone, I have to be totally open from the start. Not the first date lol, but soon into it. My wife was my first at everything. Even my first and only kiss. I've never kissed (or anything else) another woman. I always wanted a wife and family. After 20 years, I'm not sure I will want another. But who knows. I'm almost only 38. Not old but not young anymore. I guess we'll see.
 
Life is hard, sorry for your lost, be grateful for all your blessings. Take one day at a time and and pray a lot. I am a brain tumor survivor whose husband after 34 years divorced me 6 months after my surgery. He is a alcoholic and i couldn't take the yelling anymore. I worried about the future but I wake up and I have food, a car, a little manufacture home, medical care-etc. Be grateful for your blessings-the Lord had got you covered, we are here on earth such a short time. It is like a grain of sand on the beach, this stuff is just temporary, it is not eternal.
 
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Dont worry too much. If you want to find someone else you definitely will. There are plenty of women out there who will be understanding of your situation. My wife is amazing about it and and knew from the start I never hid it from her. But for her I went thru probably around 30 women I tried to date who were completely saying no just because I have a medical problem that causes me to need to wear diapers. I figured it was whatever if they were that bad about that then whatelse would they be unable to accept if anything happened down the road.
 
Greetings Steven1980:
Count your lucky stars, don't feel sorry for yourself!!! Your ex did you a GREAT favor. When I first read your message in the forum, I thought how ungrateful your wife was at the time. Steve I was in a similar situation with a very self centered woman. I finally had had more than I cared to take. Yes the divorce had it's painful moments, but the rewards were far greater than you will ever know.
In my case, I was divorced for almost 20 years before I met my love on Match.com no less. I dated many gals and had several loving relationships in the process. My biggest bit of advice is to take your time,do not rush into another relationship. Belive me with the experience you have gained you will know who Mrs. Wright is when she shows up.
The love of my life had been married for 47 years when her husband passed. She had been experiencing IC for over 5 years when we met. And she was terrified as to how and when she would share the fact with me.(Neither of us had shared our incontinence}. Well she did and I did, gosh did the tears of relief joy and acceptance flow.
Steve surely you are not going to share you situation on your first date. Get to know each other first. Pray that you will have the right words to share with her when you feel the time is right. Remember God is there to guide you. The best of success. Keep the forum up to date with your progress
 
RuralRoamer you said it better than I tried... Forget anyone who is self centered, I would never wanna be with someone who doesn't understand and who won't take good care of me... especially if they were controlling and selfish!
 
HI, thank you for your encouragement. I also was married to a very selfish self-centered individual for 34 years. He thought I was faking it and here I had a brain tumor. I pray everyday and thank the Lord I can get out of bed. I hope one day to meet someone. One never knows, I am trying to enjoy life the best that I can and I am grateful for all my blessings. I have shelter, food, hot water, friends,etc. Each day is a challenge where one never knows what the Lord will bring their way. Blessings to you both and Con- graduations on your love rural roamer.
 
Steven1980, I want to thank you for sharing your challenge with the forum. As a follow up to my earlier reply,first and foremost you are a MAN & a young man with a medical condition caused by a situation beyond your control!!! Keep active, socialize as best you can,(church singles), etc. The chances of finding a woman in the medical field as(beemoneyprovo1) suggested or with incontinence as I did, might be very slim. More than likely there is a wonderful gal out there looking for man with a great personality as you.
I have a thought that is directed to our female forum members. If Steven were to go on line, would you recommend that he be up front with his incontinence? Some thing like he has a medical condition caused by an accident? etc. Ten years ago I didn't, but with todays transparency that might be more appropriate. Don't dwell, be very matter of fact. NBD, no big deal, and the same goes for BarbaraD. Again, God be with you and the best of success in your quest for a truly wonderful and loving partner!





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Thanks and I agree, I am upfront and say it is what it is. If you don't meet someone who has been though challengers in life like you have been, it is hard for them to understand. I get depressed big time but I am a fighter and hope-pray that the Lord takes care of me. Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that is why we call it the present. I enjoy playing bridge and would like to fine someone who does also. It is not easy but everyday is a new day. Blessings. Barb
 
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