You all are just full of good information and encouragement! I am so glad there is a blog like this! My situation might be a little unusual. I'm not, technically, incontinent. I became bedridden after breaking an ankle while transferring in Oct., but I have progressive paralysis and been in a wheelchair since June 2020.
Now I am paralyzed from the waist down and cannot transfer or get to a bathroom or even use one when I am out (only to the hospital/doctor's these days!) I need diapers or pads for insurance--so I AM incontinent in that respect! Otherwise, I've been using a bedpan for the past three months. (Did I say my husband is wonderful and takes great care of me?)
Now that both hubby and I are fully vaccinated, I will be getting PT at home until I can get into an inpatient rehab facility. Top of my list is getting conditioned to transfer safely and toilet myself.
Being in bed has caused pressure ulcers/bedsores, and bulky material rubbing up against those tender places scares me. So far I have managed to overcome (not avoid) them so far. And the idea of plastic encasing my tender bottom is a concern. (During a four-week camping trip years ago, I always put a cushion on my seat at the concrete picnic tables when we ate or played a game. When we decided to give ourselves Indian-type names, my kids named me Princess Tender Butt. It seems very apt now! (That would have been a good handle for this forum!)
So I am wearing a diaper to help me get through five or six hours without feeling panicky or creating a humiliating mess for someone else to deal with. Interestingly, I've managed to get through these long appointments without peeing or pooping. I've been not eating or drinking beforehand--not a good thing as I become dehydrated and feel faint. No one can accompany me to these medical appointments--Covid again. So maybe I answered my own question--put the diaper on and stop worrying! Thanks for bearing with me--or not! Princess Tender Butt