I found going to a physical therapist specializing in pelvic muscle exercises was very helpful. Find the best one you can. Ask your surgeon to the best one and get a script for it. I'm 74, had surgery end of Jan 2019. Now I'm in 3-4 (includes one at night) thin pads each 24 hr period. Improving slowly. The pelvic muscle exercises and kegels definitely have helped me. Being active has helped me as well like doing a lot of yard work. I think it has kept my mind off the leaking and spurting. So there is a psychological aspect to this as I have observed. My PT turned me on to the connection of mind to body and the importance of this psychological aspect. She told me, while at home, even if you think you're not quite ready, start to transition from the pull-up diaper to a thick pad, like in the morning/early afternoon when I'm not leaking a lot. ... all to build my confidence. For me it's this technique has worked (of course along with the physical exercises). Then while at home I took the chance of wearing the thin pads on occasion. And that has played out well. Now just in thin pads but some days are better than others. I've detected that slowly my bladder is able to hold more urine before I need to pee. In the late afternoon and early evening when I tend to flow more I do a lot of sitting in a chair or recliner (with a laptop or magazine). These positions stop the urine flow so I can plan emptying my bladder at the toilet when I want. I've cut out wine, beer and coffee which I'm sure helped. Since I'm retired, I have been using the 1 hour "sitting to cut off urine flow", off and on strategically. Then getting up and emptying my bladder, then walking around or doing chores, then sitting down for a while. I don't know if this is part of a "legal" recovery or not but it works for me. Makes me feel I'm in control and builds my confidence. I hope this helps information helps you out.