New bed wetter, what do I do?!

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25 years old, just started wetting the bed out of the blue at night. Atleast once a week, sometimes up to 4 or 5 times, started about a month ago. I think I may need to start wearing a diaper to bed, should I? And if so what do I buy. Very embarrassing, don’t know what to do, this is all new to me, looking for some advice.

Thanks!

 

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1st of all go and see your doctor you will get good advice of this site

 

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Thanks for answering,I have been to the doctor, cleared medically, apparently just a deep sleeper, attended sleep study as well. Was able to stay dry for that

 

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Even quality disposables have never owed well for me overnight. I’ve wet at night my whole life so I’ve tried everything. Thick pin on cloth diapers from changing times diaper company along with plastic pants have been my only solution to keeping the bed “mostly”dry, most nights. A plastic mattress protector under your sheets is also essential. I’ve been diapered at night so long it’s just routine. I’m a sure initially it will be an adjustment but once it saves some nightly floods you’ll appreciate them.

 

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You may want to get a second medical opinion to be double sure that sleep is the only issue.

You can look up Urologists in your area through your insurance plan or see a wide variety at https://www.vitals.com//urologists

There is something called "alarm therapy" that can be successful at retraining your sleep patterns if you are patient. See:

Bedwetting - Sleep Education

Bedwetting is also called sleep enuresis. It is a parasomnia. Bedwetting occurs when a person urinates by accident in his or her sleep.

sleepeducation.org

It can take 6 months or more so it takes discipline, but this can work...I've seen it personally. Basically, you wear special underwear with sensors that will trigger the alarm so you get up at the first drop of wetness. Sometimes at the beginning, if you are such a deep sleeper, it will require a family member to sleep nearby to get you up when the alarm sounds, but over time you will be able to do it yourself.

The more "accidents" you have, the quicker your brain gets retrained to be in lighter sleep at that time of night and eventually normal REM sleep can be the result.

There are therapists and doctors that are experts in this and can act as a coach for you to help you track your progress and help adjust your process as you go. It will be frustrating at times, especially if you don't have events when wearing the sensors and you'll want to give up, but a coach can help keep you motivated.

Sleep induced enuresis is a big problem right now and seems to be growing as middle school and high school age children are not able to get to sleep at decent hour due to social pressures of school, social media and homework due at midnight. You're lucky if you know this is likely caused by sleep issue. Many people are told this is anxiety induced and the sleep issue is not studied.

While enuresis can cause anxiety, it's not often the other way around and it's worth seeing multiple doctors to determine if there is a medical cause, including sleep.

 

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Cloth diapers and plastic pants are much cheaper in the long run vs. disposables. I get mine from Fetware.com Good prices and fast service. Hope this helps.

 

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Thanks everybody, looking in to see another doctor and I will look into the cloth diapers. I need something I can go get at the store ASAP, not wearing anything at the moment at night now, been lucky the last few nights but that is not going to last long, what do I look for at the store to buy?

 

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North Shore Adam gave you excellent advice. As the result of a surgical mishap when I was 14 years old, I’ve been consistently incontinent at night for over 60 years (and during the day for about 30 years). I used cloth diapers and plastic pants until about 25 years ago when disposable adult diapers became good enough to rely on. I agree that cloth diapers can work very reliably at night, but washing and caring for them are major nuisances. So to minimize the amount of time and attention that you have to devote to dealing with your problem, I recommend using disposables. I currently use either Confidry 24/7, BetterDry, or Rearz Inspire+ In Control. The company that North Shore Adam represents sells a number of excellent disposable diapers, including their MegaMax product that receives outstanding reviews from American users. I would very much like to try their MegaMax product, but I live in Canada; and shipping diapers across the border is more trouble than it’s worth.

 

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While I have never been reliably dry at night, your 'secondary nocturnal enuresis' was triggered by something. Don't give up searching for that answer. If it's something that can be addressed, it's sure worth all the effort to find it, rather than dealing with the variety of costs (both emotional and financially) associated with products needed for nighttime protection. Good luck!!

 

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Changing times gauze diapers are the most comfortable and absorbent. Best to order one to begin with to be sure after laundered it fits with plenty of pinning overlap. Pin diapers on as snug as possible because when wet they will stretch out some. Important to get plastic pants roomy enough for your diapers but snug around waist and legs. Gary pants are very good. I use one cloth preform with 3 gauze baby diapers as stuffers as this works best for me on most nights. Disposables overnight don’t work well for me regardless of brand as I’m a side sleeper. I’ve done this for 50+ years so have plenty of experience of what works.

 

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Was you sleep study in a lab or did they send the equipment home? I was just talking to one of my doctors about it. I am interested but don't really want to discuss bedwetting with them. She took a note to find a home study provider in our area. She even mentioned that most folks don't tend to sleep well in that kind of medical setting.

 

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I'm experiencing incontinence due to a recent surgery, and condom catheters having been working just fine overnight for me.

 

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That is excellent

 

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Agree with others. You MUST see your doctor as this can be a symptom of a number of serious medical issues, though sometimes it's a stand alone idiopathic thing.

That said, in the meatime, it's smart to not destroy your mattress. I'd recommend a good tape on plastic backed diaper like Better Dry. It takes some getting used to, but who knows, maybe you'll only need them for a very short while if the doctor can successfully treat you.

 

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Hi @CS1234

Hang in there. Got a lot of great support here for you. Found out anything else about what triggered your bedwetting to start out of the blue? Hope the frequency has gone down for you or stopped all together.

Stay positive.

J

 

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Buy some adult diapers at your local target or walmart. If anyone asks, say there for your grandfather. This is for short term. Long term, I would suggest cloth diapers and plastic pants. I get mine from Fetware.com. GREAT prices and fast service. Hope this helps.