Just need to vent a little

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So after doing fairly good during the day for the last couple months, ive had a few accidents this week. And im just so disgusted with myself. Im tired and upset and discouraged. The first one, on Monday, i should have gone right away but i totally thought i could finish the paperwork i was doing first. Yeah...wrong. I ended up wetting my pants and the floor of the bathroom stall because i couldnt hold on long enough to unfasten my jeans. The second one,yesterday i forgot to pee before i left work, got a bit stuck in traffic and didnt get any further than my driveway before i ended up soaked. My neighbors teenage daughter and her frirnd literally witnessed the whole thing from their yard. Thankfully they didnt say a word just went inside but i felt so humiliated i went inside and after i changed into one of the goodnite pullups i wear at night and dry sweatpants, i laid down on the couch and literally cried for hours until i fell asleep. Im glad i had the presence of mind to put on a goodnite cuz i woke up around midnight and I'd wet in it. Im just fed up. Ive dealt with this crap my whole life. Complete strangers have watched me pee my pants in public.Ive been laughed at, yelled at, pitied etc. I know things could be worse and luckily i dont usually have a daily accident (or more)anymore like i did when i was younger. Im grateful for that. But im terrified to have a relationship because of my nightly bedwetting and who wants to be seen in public with a girlfriend who has almost as much chsnce of wetting herself as a 3 year old.
I just want this to stop.

 

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Sent you a pm

 

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Sending you a hug. Put a beep on your phone for every 2 hours so that you are always reminded to go.
A loving partner will understand your problem xx

 

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Sending a hug we all need to vent from time to time

 

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@ShiRae don't worry, we all need to vent from time to time, Phil

 

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Sorry about the accidents had a bad one early this week.But keep your head up.

 

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Hello,

I feel very bad for your circumstance. Please, however, don't let this little thing affect your self-worth. You have a problem. Everyone has problems. Nevertheless, problems don't define us as individuals with infinite worth. From your "vent" you seem to desire a relationship. Why should this problem stop you? Be open to meeting someone. If the problem arises, let the person know of your situation. If the person laughs, scoffs, etc., leave his/ her presence and start a friendship with someone else. You'll ultimately find someone who really cares about you and, who will accept you as you are. Of course, you'll have to accept that person with his/ her problems. There are people out there who are really caring individuals. Get out there and meet them. Give them the benefits of all you have to offer. You ARE a person with infinite dignity and value. Let your light shine to others.

 

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Regina that was spot on
Thank you

 

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ShiRae

I feel for you. I'm not sure what causes you to not be able to hold but I have discovered that when I consume a certain type of sugar I can't hold either. As long as I stay away from invert sugar I can hold during waking hours but this does not apply to bed-wetting while sleeping. I have not been able to determine why I have sporadic random bed-wetting episodes while sleeping. If you notice that your waking holding issue gets worse at times and then eases up at other times, chances are it's something in your diet or medications or stress. Keep your head up and all the jackasses that made fun of you or laughed at you will be in diapers one day suffering from what they made fun of and some of them may have already gotten what they dished out. I hope you get some relief soon.

 

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I do know that my heart hurts to hear this. I know this is a normal bodily waste, and everyone passes this. You and many others here cannot control. You have our utmost respect. I will support your misfortunes, as I have had the same thing. I don't need to dwell on them, as you also know what they are. If I could extend a hug, I would. And hopefully will be here for you.

 

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@ShiRae In reading your post I feel your frustration, embarrassment and feeling of at a loss. First off, you got this and we got you.

As a bedwetter myself, I know the feeling of wondering, worrying, stressing if anyone out there will want to ever date let alone marry me. Believe me there are people out there who understand and will love you for you. I found one.

For the day accidents I don't have much I can say except I do understand embarrassment from it. I only had two embarrassing accidents as a kid at school. One in 3rd grade and one in 9th grade, Yes I did say 9th grade. Talk about humiliating; what 9th grader pees his pants... Well this guy did. So I don't have any recent experiences as you are having now, I do get the embarrassment and stress that a day accident can cause.

Hang in there. When it gets tough hit us up and we will listen and offer support.