I am tired

[Peaceforkings]

I am a 31 year old male living with my Dad. I'm not too bothered by that. I'm more bothered by not having any friends and not seeing my family due to constant struggles with incontinence.

I'm tired of feeling shame most of the time by default. I even feel shame when I use the bathroom due to mental health issues and possibly my brain confusing leaking with using the bathroom.

I don't want to be on disability for the rest of my life though I am still grateful for it. I just feel overwhelmed by everything and I don't know if it will ever get better.

 

[joe64]

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way, but I want to say how much strength it takes to share something so deeply personal—it's clear that you're doing your best to navigate an incredibly challenging situation.

First, I want to emphasize that you are not alone. Many people face struggles with incontinence and the feelings of shame or frustration that can accompany it. It’s not a reflection of your worth as a person, even though it may feel like it. You are more than your challenges.

It’s also okay to feel overwhelmed; the journey can seem daunting at times. Maybe reaching out to support groups or online forums for people dealing with similar issues could help. It can be comforting and empowering to connect with others who understand what you're going through.

Have you considered talking to a therapist or counselor who specializes in mental health and chronic conditions? Sometimes, they can help untangle feelings of shame and provide strategies to cope with both the mental and physical aspects of your situation. Small, manageable steps towards change—like setting little goals that feel achievable—might help ease the feelings of being overwhelmed.

It’s wonderful that you’re grateful for the help disability provides, and the fact that you don’t want to remain on it forever shows how much drive and determination you have. That spark of hope is important, and even though progress can sometimes feel slow, it’s still progress. Keep holding onto that.

Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone. There are resources, professionals, and communities that can walk alongside you as you work towards better days. You deserve kindness, understanding, and the opportunity to lead the life you want.

You’re taking the first steps by acknowledging these feelings—and that in itself is a powerful act of courage.

 

[Peaceforkings]

Thank you for the kind words and understanding.

I go to therapy once a week. It helps.

I appreciate your encouragement and validation of my struggles. I think this was my first step in reaching out. I'm not sure what other communities there are for incontinence. This is my first one.