I’m somewhat getting used to this

[newtothis]

Hi I have been incontinent for a while. I’m really not bothered by needing diapers to stay active anymore. As a long time bed wetter before getting to the point that I needed to wear full time by my early 20s. Back then I would avoid activity’s around others do you embarrassment over diapers but over time it really isn’t to bad. My friends and family are very supportive and it helps. I’m finally going to pt and seeing some small improvement but still relying on the protection of diapers every day to stay dry.

 

[donny4]

Same boat for me and also have developed over time a very positive attitude about being UI and living in diapers. I’m thankful I’m not double incontinent and as any of us full time diapered people know there really is a lot of convenience being diapered. The management issue regarding changing and disposal of diapers is really a minor issue.

 

[donny4]

Same boat for me and also have developed over time a very positive attitude about being UI and living in diapers. I’m thankful I’m not double incontinent and as any of us full time diapered people know there really is a lot of convenience being diapered. The management issue regarding changing and disposal of diapers is really a minor issue.

 

[Mike7406]

I saw a urologist in Los Angeles today. He said I was retaining 600cc after voiding. My kidneys appear to be okay. I am seeing him in a month for a Urodynamics study. He said after that he will determine the next course of action. When I told him I was filling my Depends Night Defense with 470-570 ML a night he was taken aback. I had a retention problem for at least 10 years but my IC started about 9 months ago. My prostate is only slightly enlarged based on the ultrasound they did. I could be looking at a full TURP. Something I have been dreading but if I can eliminate diapers I can deal with the pain. I was diagnosed with a bladder neck obstruction almost 30 years ago. They didn't do robotic surgery back then and I knew enough about a TURP that it could be a horror show and I decided against it. I had to go frequently then but I lived with it. Now in my 70's I am about to pay the price. I wish I knew what caused my problem in the first place. Even when was in my 20's I would have to deal with bouts of frequent urination. Going back even further I remember several trips to the toilet at night when I was around 14. I was born with a defective bladder.

 

[chestnut7718]

Hi I have been incontinent for a while. I’m really not bothered by needing diapers to stay active anymore. As a long time bed wetter before getting to the point that I needed to wear full time by my early 20s. Back then I would avoid activity’s around others do you embarrassment over diapers but over time it really isn’t to bad. My friends and family are very supportive and it helps. I’m finally going to pt and seeing some small improvement but still relying on the protection of diapers every day to stay dry.

I think it's possible to conceal one's wearing of taped briefs for urinary incontinence. But for bowel voids, it's a lot harder. This happens 1-2 times per day without control or warning. One must wear plastic pants and use deoderant sprays and eat chlorophyl or nulo. Changes on the go are pretty time consuming if soiled and wet. Obviously, skin can also be irritated by constant wearing. Use barrier sprays from coloplast. Get special backpack and bags to conceal odor and leaks from used briefs.

 

[michlaw347]

Getting over the fear of wearing and changing in public is the hardest thing to do. BUT once you achieve this your brain stops caring who knows.
Some things to remember that can help.

1) the sound of a plastic backed diaper is louder to you for a couple reasons - the first one is that when you put it on at home, the acoustics are different in your house than out in public. SECOND- you can hear it better because you are actively trying to listen. The average person out in public is too engrossed in their smartphone to even notice.

I once went to the grocery store wearing a thick and quite loud diaper under basketball shorts (they do NOTHING to hide the sound). My shirt had gotten stuck in the waistband and I was "exposed" in the back.
No body seemed to notice and if they did, they never said anything to me. When I got home I discovered that my waistband had been showing. At first I was ashamed thinking about how many people probably saw my diaper, but then I realized that I will likely never see any of those people again. So who cares?

2) as to the sound being noticeable back around 2000-2003ish baby diapers stopped being plastic backed and they all went to cloth backed. This made them MUCH quieter. So for the last 20+ years people haven't really associated the sound of a plastic backed diaper with diapers in general. If someone hears your diaper they are not very likely to put it together and will likely think you have a bag or wrapper in your pocket.

3) People in general are quite respectful of a person's medical needs/disabilities. If someone figures out you are wearing, they are very unlikely to say anything. And certainly less likely to say something negative.
Once I was at a laundromat and I needed to change, I went to my car and grabbed a new diaper and my wipes. I walked back in and headed to the bathroom. As I passed by a family the boy said to his mother: "why does that person have a diaper"? The mom was quick to shush her son and I heard her explain that sometimes people have medical issues. When I came out of the bathroom I passed by and the mom mouthed silently to me "sorry". I just told her "no big deal, kids don't know better and you're doing a good job of explaining".

4) It's all in your head. Nobody cares other than your doctor and your family.