I'm not sure if anyone else has struggled with this dilemma, but here goes. I am a 78 year old male with heart failure, lumbar stenosis, and peripheral neuropathy. I also had a prostatectoy 9 years ago and have some bladder retention. I do struggle with incontinence, but it is so unpredictable. There are days where I hardly pee at all, and other days I leak quite a bit. I do wear diapers, but there are days when they are not necessary. My question is do I just give in to the fact that it's better to prepare for the worst and hope for the best? It seems like such a waist if a diaper isin't used. Maybe this is a stupied question, but if any others suffer similarly, I would appreciate knowing how you manage. Thanks.