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I was out of town and was staying in a hotel. I disposed of my diapers in a plastic bag placed in the trash can. The next day I noticed my bed was made with a plastic/rubber sheet on it. Is this normal? I even asked the housekeeper and was told it is policy if someone is diapered to add the sheet. Really did not bother me but just wanted to know if it happened to anyone else.

 

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I have stayed enough to be platinum elite w Marriott. All of their beds have covers but they are higher end and not the cheap crinkly stuff. They are waterproof as I have had times my shirts leaked and I checked. I usually carry a bed pad to be good though. I have had the cleaning staff leave me a larger can which I appreciate. One time I dropped my bag on the bed and changed quickly as I ran out to dinner with my coworkers. When I came back not only had they turned the bed down, but they had placed my diaper plastic pants I left out nicely folded on the bed. At first I was a bit embarrassed and felt a bit awkward about it. The more I thought about it, I realized they were being nice and was ok with it. It was a higher end place and I should have known there was turn down service, and should not have left me night supplies out.

 

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Hi @Jayindiapers;

I haven't stayed overnight inside a hotel since my Bedwetting and bladder condition worsened; however that should not be the norm unless you've prior contacted an employee about your health condition. Typically individuals who suffer notify someone beforehand or during there stay.

With my own experiences i can talk to you about my hospital stays. Which, staying overnight is similar to a hotel. What I've always done, is told one nurse privately and said "Hey, I suffer from severe bladder issues; can you assist myself?".

I am an able bodied individual which means I can take care of my own needs so the nurse that I have would give myself continence products in a paper bag with a paper bag to dispose of them in. That way, my dignity is spared, and I can feel equal to the other residents in the hospital.

A couple years ago when I was hospitalized I would suffer from Bedwetting incidents while not wearing protection as if personally know myself; wearing protection is a huge trigger for myself due to the humiliation and shame from my youth - and because of that, the housekeeping staff would adequately protect the bed. I would not wear protection however.

I reflect on those days and all I can recall are the memories of the shame and infantalizing feelings of being looked down upon by my family and daytime care provider.

God those memories hurt.

Blessings In Christ,
Honeeecombs

 

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I stayed in hotels all over the world due to my job. One huge thing I found over 20 years, is that it seems to be a much bigger deal here in the USA than elsewhere. In Japan I was often left disposal bags, adult cleaning products, lotions etc. In Europe I can only compare it to a woman requesting a feminine product, nothing to be ashamed of, just a function of the human body, no big deal. As Wetdad mentioned, I would often find a larger waste can by day 2 if I was staying in town. Most of the nicer hotels already had some kind of mattress protection as humans don’t only leak pee, especially in hotels!
Over the years I began to hunt down unique and cool places to stay, such as King Louis’ estate to hold his concubine in Burgundy, France. In these places you were always treated like family!
If the house / hotel has been in the family that long I’m sure they’ve seen much worse, so the only discomfort or guilt you might feel is what you brought with you.
Sadly what I discovered a long time ago, that many still live with is guilt attributed to their “Health Issue”. I think we all know is there is a learning curve associated with incontinence, over time you just figure it out.. I compare it to learning how to drive. Yeah you might bump into a few things as you go, do the 20 turn parallel park in the city with 10 cars waiting behind you etc, but eventually you figure it out.
If we’re smart, we forget about all that stuff or eventually you’d scare yourself out of driving forever! Too bad there is no longer any “Courses” in incontinence here in the US, the insurance companies didn’t deem them profitable so off they went… In this case I was lucky as I did have a team that worked tirelessly to educate me as to how to adjust my life to my new underwear.

 

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I stayed in hotels all over the world due to my job. One huge thing I found over 20 years, is that it seems to be a much bigger deal here in the USA than elsewhere. In Japan I was often left disposal bags, adult cleaning products, lotions etc. In Europe I can only compare it to a woman requesting a feminine product, nothing to be ashamed of, just a function of the human body, no big deal. As Wetdad mentioned, I would often find a larger waste can by day 2 if I was staying in town. Most of the nicer hotels already had some kind of mattress protection as humans don’t only leak pee, especially in hotels!
Over the years I began to hunt down unique and cool places to stay, such as King Louis’ estate to hold his concubine in Burgundy, France. In these places you were always treated like family!
If the house / hotel has been in the family that long I’m sure they’ve seen much worse, so the only discomfort or guilt you might feel is what you brought with you.
Sadly what I discovered a long time ago, that many still live with is guilt attributed to their “Health Issue”. I think we all know is there is a learning curve associated with incontinence, over time you just figure it out.. I compare it to learning how to drive. Yeah you might bump into a few things as you go, do the 20 turn parallel park in the city with 10 cars waiting behind you etc, but eventually you figure it out.
If we’re smart, we forget about all that stuff or eventually you’d scare yourself out of driving forever! Too bad there is no longer any “Courses” in incontinence here in the US, the insurance companies didn’t deem them profitable so off they went… In this case I was lucky as I did have a team that worked tirelessly to educate me as to how to adjust my life to my new underwear.

Amen brother Ben.

I have not had the pleasure of staying in Hotels around the world; but I have had the pleasure of experiencing World Class Resort Destinations many years ago. Whether it is a mom and pop establishment or a luxury boutique hotel; what I can tell you is prior to my suffering of bladder control problems and mental health issues - hotels are probably one of the worst establishments to do business in the US - I don't recommend them.

Thinking of Sheppard and Silent Hill Homecoming I remember working in an office enviornment where woman were constantly harassed. In one case, felt sexually harassed.

I remember the night vividly, the girl who sat across from myself (for privacy purposes we will refer to her as JSHEP) - was asked to go up to the suite to hang out with our Public Relations man who had connections with a prior presidential candidate. He was a very pursuasive out of town guy. The Big Apple.

Unfortunately, lower standards is what you will find in the US at these places. But I will say the Good News is that the future seems bright with globalization and civil rights.

That's why personally speaking, I am in my own personal situation where I know I am being investigated - I've learned that agencies while in the recent news you see articles about corruption, misconduct; ive always still stood with our due process system. Hopefully these businesses will restructure and learn from oglobal standards and accommodate those like myself with severe bladder control problems.

Got to go; it's Downpouring here in Silent Hill.

Blessings In Christ,
Honeeecombs

 

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It was hotel stays that made me think about protection a few years back as whilst not full-on bedwetting, my leakage overnight from after-dribble and my bowel issues from IBS made me really self-conscious when staying in small places as it must have been noticeable and it seems all hotels have white sheets!

I agree it can be awkward, now I just stay in big chain hotels when I am away - mainly for accessibility issues but I also feel the more impersonal experience makes me feel less awkward. The main issue I have is with disposal - the bins provided are never big enough and so I take my own black bags. No one's ever said anything. I do tend to leave some nappies and bed pads out so they can put 2+2 together, rather than think something's up. I think next time I stay somewhere, I may just bite the bullet and ask for a bigger bin.

As for the mattress protector issue - @Jayindiapers, I haven't known plastic sheets as being standard for beds over here (as an adult anyway) - as a kid every hotel I stayed in with my parents (and on school trips) had plastic sheets as standard as a 'just in case' I suppose. Personally, I wouldn't be bothered if they put one down and would welcome it.

 

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I generally travel for any conventions and usually in the same town, I stay at the same hotel, in each city. All these hotels basically had a profile as I would request extra mattress protection, I am 24/7 in a full diaper as I have Cauda Equina syndrome as well as MS and 6 back surgeries. So my bladder may be leaking constantly fill to 1650 ml and then totally release or I do not wet for 36 hours and I self Cath. Anyways those hotels started having a shower curtain also protecting the mattress, I would of course also be wearing and they would have a large trash can as well as bags. I wouldn’t have to say anything to them they know my needs, I have now bought like a full twin size basically bedwetting pad for the bed and leave one at each hotel and they have it on the bed each time. They are all Marriott hotels and if the diaper does leak they would wash the pad and have it back on the bed that evening. So I always stay at a Marriott hotel when possible.
We go to Mexico all inclusive and usually have a butler, I let them know of my needs, and have actually had one resort have a bag of diapers in my room. I forget the brand they were, but were comparable to a molicare at least in absorbency. So if you go and upon check in just let them know and most hotels will accommodate
Especially not wanting wet beds.

Don’t be ashamed by what you cannot control, be confident about who you are! So what you need to wear a diaper big deal! Yes I try my best to hide it, if asked though I am not ashamed and anyone who knows me and what I have gone through surgery wise and with having the Cauda Equina and primary Progressive Multiple Sclerosis, if they look at it they would know incontinence is a given.

 

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Places like Amazon, Lowes, and Home Depot all sell collapsible trash cans. I almost got one for camping before my last surgery. You could put it right in the bottom of your luggage with a roll of bags and never have to worry about having a trash can when at a hotel.

 

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@ThatFLGuy Thanks for the heads up - one of those will be a massive help!