There are many brands, but over the years I have found that a tight pull-on fitting Vinyl pant is the best. I purchase the LeakMaster Deluxe Pull-on for AdultClothDiaper.com. It is a heavy gauge vinyl, wide elastic waist, and leg bands. They are stretchy, do they will be tight and hold either cloth or disposable. They are awesome, and I have never had a leak day or night. Since these Vinyl pants are tight fitting, there is no crinkle sound, and I'm sure you will appreciate that! The only negative I can add is during a hot summer, it is better to get the same pant in snap-on style to allow breathing but not allow leaks. The only diaper I will use is the over-night weight Birdseye Pre-fold. For daytime I use a single diaper, and at night I use either 2 or 3 pads inside or double diaper.
Using this combination, I get 100% confidence (never had a leak), very comfortable, and the bulk is contained by the vinyl pant. I was at my urologist's office last week and spoke to the nurse when she took me to the exam room. She asked me to undress, and when she returned, she gave me the look.... and said if I didn't see it I wouldn't believe it. She didn't think it was possible to conseal the bulk of a pin-on cloth diaper under jeans. That says a lot to me.
I hope you find something awesome.
