@Anxiety I’m like you, 2/3-3/4 of my pee output happens when I’m laying down to sleep. That happens because of permanent nerve damage to my spine, not because of water and electrolyte imbalances. I cut my fluid intake to 32 to 50 ounces. I definitely have swelling in my lower legs because my knees are such a mess. I don’t think I can stand to cut any less back, but I bet if I did, maybe my knees wouldn’t swell like that! Living in one of the stormiest regions of the United States doesn’t help.
Do you have an adjustable bed? My parents said I could get one for my Christmas present, but I haven’t yet because they’re so ugly. I finally found one a couple of days ago that can work with my slat bed and has all the features I want so I think I’m going to go with that one. I’ve been thinking that if I sleep at night with my legs elevated, I will get tremendous knee relief, but I have been wondering if that’s going to make me pee even more at night, which I simply cannot tolerate.
When I’m working at a desk I certainly can’t keep my legs elevated during the day. Are you retired; is that how you keep your legs up during the day? I wish I could; my entire body hurts less when I’m sitting with my leg straight out in front of me. When I get the adjustable bed, I will try to keep my legs elevated as often as possible, which will primarily be in the evenings, and when I sleep. I will keep them up for the entire duration of the lengthy healing process after I get my knee replacements, whenever I can finally afford that.
I’m not sure if I’d rather have worse incontinence in the day or night. At least at night I’m home, there’s a bathroom 10 feet away, and nobody else has to notice how often I’m going to the bathroom. Maybe it would be OK now that I get Botox. Before I had Botox, I was reticent to even drive on the freeway because you can’t get off the freeway to pee. I didn’t like going out in public because of my leaks. Now I’ve learned to take the leaks a little easier but there’s still no fun. One of the reasons I was scared to move back to Hollywood is that there aren’t very many public restrooms there, whereas in Utah, public restrooms are mandated at places of public business by the state, so they are everywhere - though they were terrifyingly closed during COVID. Restrooms at public parks still haven’t been reopened, which infuriates me. If you get caught peeing in the woods on the side of the park, you’re a “sex“ offender for life. Well, then, they should re-open those public restrooms, or get the kind they have in the streets of Europe, like in Amsterdam in particular.
I don’t think my skin can handle wearing diapers 24/7. My diaper rash is already bad enough when I just wear diapers at night. That would be yet another huge hurdle for me to have to take, emotionally, to always wear diapers during the day. I have yet to deliberately sit there and pee in a diaper while conscious. If it happens while I’m sleeping, so be it, I’m not aware of it and I don’t care. I’ve had seven years to get used to that. I have worn daytime protection here and there, like if I go to a movie or a concert or a long freeway drive, but I’m always too grossed to use it deliberately; I only use it if it’s a true accident. I can’t stand using a diaper voluntarily; that feels like baby fetishy stuff to me. For leaks, that doesn’t gross me out. I would have to buy a whole entire new pants wardrobe to accommodate a diaper fit. No thanks; everything costs way too much money now. Also, no man would ever want to date a woman with baggy pants that are hiding a diaper. . . not that anyone’s asking, anyway!
so it will definitely be interesting to see what happens with the adjustable bed, and when I start keeping my legs elevated. I’ve had four knee surgeries so far, two on each side, and during recovery, I had to prop my legs up against the wall to get the fluid to drain. It’s a very uncomfortable position to be in, to keep your knees above your heart. I didn’t notice that it made me pee more afterward, but next time I do it, I’ll try to remember to notice.
Nobody since then has loved me like he did, not even my husband who came later in my life. 
