Childhood trauma

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I totally get how incontinence can contribute to childhood trauma. I’m a 35 year old male, and I’ve dealt with this my entire life. In elementary school the bullying was so bad that the teachers had to bribe the other kids to get them to be nice to me. And my parents were always telling me that I was lazy, and that’s why they thought I was having accidents. By the time I was a teenager I was hyper vigilant about using the bathroom, and when I did have an accident I’d always hide it. It wasn’t until I was an adult that I discovered that I wasn’t alone in dealing with this, and I began using absorbent products to aid me in living a normal life. But learning to accept that I need protection has been hard, sometimes I’ll think that it’s all in my head and I’ll go without protection only to end up humiliating myself.

 

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Hi @Tallnbald, I read you loud and clear on that going without protection business only to end up being humiliated. I do have a philosophy; simply, it's better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it! But your head thinks one way but your bladder overrules it! :O And thate;s especially if you're fine one minute and the next you suddenly get that feeling you gotta go and right now!

 

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at bill: I've not seen good morning Vietnam

I will have to check it out

 

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Emily I delt with similar issues then and now. I do have social anxiety, where I find it hard to go out with friends and family. I hope you have a great day and be positive.

 

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hi checmec,

to answer your question about acceptance, I've honestly been known to handle it both ways

on good days, I just see it as part of my daily rooteen- it needs to be done, this is why, I'm just going to toilet like everyone else, just in a diffrent way

but on bad days I've been known to curse, feel depressed, hate my body, even sit their wondering the point to trying to keep myself looking presentible, so yes, for me, it depends very much on the day, and also what I'm doing as well
I've been in many embarrassing situations over the years, causing myself embarrassment, and people around me. I look back at some of them now and think... lol, wow that happened, but at the time it is not fun

 

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Hi Emily, Good Morning Viet Nam, has been around for quite awhile and you can probably get it on Amazon still.