I am 68. My robotic radical prostratectomy was March 11th—so nearly five months ago—and the incontinency has not changed. Currently working with a PT, who has assigned me the attached exercises to strengthen my pelvic floor. Please note that my surgeon warned me against wearing "an incontinence device with an attached bag, a condom catheter, or a clamp. If you do, you will not develop the muscular control necessary for continence."
In regards to recovery time, he said 80% of his patients are recovered by their 12-week followup. That was certainly not the case with me. Of the remaining 20%, 18% recover within the first year and 2% require additional surgery to permanently remedy the issue.
It depends largley on what condition your bladder was in prior to sugery. Garbage in, garbage out, as they say. I was catheterized in the ER for extreme retention issues earlier this year on two separate occasions, the second for 6 weeks right up to and including the day of my surgery.
At my last PT session, I ran into a minister who was visiting patients at the facility. He told me he had his prostate removed in the 1990s and still wears a thin liner to this day. His brother who underwent the same procedure has never experienced incontinency of any kind.
So each case is unique. I just have to keep reminding myself how lucky I am to be living in the 21st century. You can trace bladder issues back to the ancient Egyptians, who used papyrus reeds to catherize themselves. Ben Franklin fashioned one out of silver for his brother. It has really only been since the advent of vulcanized rubber 150 years ago—and later, silicon—that catheterization has even become a viable option for the population as a whole. The first robotic prostatectomy was performed in 2004.
Thank your lucky stars, my good man, and take it day by day. Slow and steady wins the race.