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So my GF has more extra money than I do and is planning trips and things for the coming months. Here is the thing, Even though I am "ThatFLGuy" I hate the beach. I grew up with them all around and never liked going. Once I was old enough to have a say I just quit going altogether.

GF got us invited to Myrtle Beach for a week and that is a big UGH for me.

I have no clue how I am going to go and be comfortable at a beach with everything I got going on health-wise.


There are just some things that I really do not like doing but my GF wants to do them so.. UGH!!!

 

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You should definitely go to Myrtle Beach. Your relationship will eventually fade away if you don’t participate in her lifestyle.
Wear khaki pants, golf shirt, sandals and a dress hat. Have a tropical drink with an umbrella poke with fruit in your drink. Dark sun glasses and the woman will admire you. Not everyone needs to be in shorts.

 

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Go. Percara is right. Be with GF -- there is only so much time in life! Do NOT look back someday and say "I wish I had another day with her... maybe at the beach!" Dress any way you want. There are other things to do in Myrtle Beach after the sun goes down, too. Stay out of the water but kick back & relax and give her a kiss.

 

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I understand how you feel. I've become a recluse in my home due to Overactive Bladder & Fecal Incontinence. The Axonic device implanted under my skin didn't even help that much. So I've decided that if I do have an opportunity to go somewhere, I'm going to do it. Like, I'm going back to church. Haven't been there in years!

 

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Just go and have a great time, life only gives you one chance.

 

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If GF feels comfortable going without you tell her how you feel. If it's something that she really wants you to be there consider a give and take situation. Is there stuff she does only because of you? There are also lots things to entertain you besides just the beach there.

 

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I can understand your feelings about the beach. I'm not what you'd exactly call a beach fanatic myself!! I lifestyle exclusively at the beach wouldn't do anything for me. But maybe since you've gotten older your perceptions about the beach may have changed and you might say "that wasn't so bad after all!"
It's surprising how things we used to hate can sometimes morph into something that is now not nearly as hateful.
So, taking the advice of everyone else here, I'd go with that in mind and go with the mindset you'll have a great time with your GF, no matter where it is!
Try it, you might find you like it much more than you originally thought you would!

 

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Myrtle Beach has pretty good PeeWee golf courses which is not so strenuous on a person. At least I think it would not be for me. I went out and played 18 holes since the RP to get my once a year whether I need it or not golf game in. Lots of leakage when swinging but carried enough pads to get me through.

 

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Okay, the big thing that I did not mention here is that I do not have money in my budget to drive that far away from where I live. My budget only allows for so much money for gas for my car. I do not even have money for things to keep my car going right now so I have to adjust my budget for that.

As I did say, GF has more extra money than I do but her paying for gas to go down to Myrtle Beach does not also cover wear and tear on my car or other things for it.

My parents think that I need to have a long talk with GF about things because so stuff it kind of UGH.

 

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I definitely think you need to have a talk w/ your GF. Maybe not a LONG talk and maybe not even so serious, but tell her how you feel and what your concerns are.

Communication is key. If she doesn't know, she can't read your mind and is just thinking of the fun y'all will have together.

She needs to know all your concerns...she's your GF for a reason. Give her the chance to understand, but be willing to compromise.

Hope everything works out and if you go, you have fun at the beach! I am NOT a beach person, either. Sometimes I go with my wife and family, sometimes they go with friends. I would rather be at a lake, river or frankly, in the mountains...but sometimes you make sacrafices and compromises - she does for me at times as well...

BUT, the BIG thing is to talk and communicate. Tell her you are not trying to spoil her excitement for the trip, but that you have some concerns. Give her the opportunity to respond. Things will work out one way or the other, but it's not fair to either of you if you don't tell her how you feel...

Just my 2 cents!


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