The curse of the unknown.

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I think that the biggest anxiety for myself as well as others here is dealing with the unknown.

The what if is a big stress builder.


What if, I can never go back to work, or college, or things get worse?

What if social security stills tells me no? What then?


What if social security says yes but I do not get enough to even live, travel to see family, or enjoy the things that keep me going?

What if doctors do not have a solution for what is going on?

What if the solution that they have means not having kids of my own one day?

What if, What if?


It sucks not knowing what is next. Not knowing what doctors are going to say about X-Y-Z moving forward.

For me every day is fighting off anxiety about what the day will be like. It sucks but it is my life now so I got to live it.

 

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Yes I can relate to this .

 

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And that is why most of us are on this forum. Because we all have had at least some if not all the feelings you have....and indeed it is scary. But start making a plan on every thing you are worried about. It will at least keep you busy and run it by some of the folks here. We can help....many people here have helped me over the last 8 months. Keep positive, you can and will beat this thing. Reach out to family and close friends. Sometimes that's easier said than done. Do not rely on your government. Start making a plan to survive without government help. After all, people have been having our problems for many many years before our government ever showed up and they made it....and so can you. Good luck my friend and don't give up the ship....fight fight fight.

 

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@ThatFLGuy I completely feel you about anxiety of the future. I often end up with Buyer’s Remorse and Anslysis Paralysis because I’m frozen by anxiety. I have trouble making decisions.

 

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@snow

I am sure it is like this for others but for me I do not really go anywhere because I have anxiety about having issues. My big thing right now is that if I go out at all, even for groceries, I am done for the next 16-18 hours after. It sucks because even doing my dishes just kills my back. Staying hydrated is no joke and it is very hard with this ileostomy. Being as hydrated as I need to means having more bladder issues. Nothing about this last surgery fixed enough for me to have a normal life. If I drive somewhere to get groceries then after shopping I am done for the rest of the day. At best right now I have 25-35 minutes where I can be active before I have to rest.

It sucks but it is my life now.

 

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I think that the biggest anxiety for myself as well as others here is dealing with the unknown.

The what if is a big stress builder.


What if, I can never go back to work, or college, or things get worse?

What if social security stills tells me no? What then?


What if social security says yes but I do not get enough to even live, travel to see family, or enjoy the things that keep me going?

What if doctors do not have a solution for what is going on?

What if the solution that they have means not having kids of my own one day?

What if, What if?


It sucks not knowing what is next. Not knowing what doctors are going to say about X-Y-Z moving forward.

For me every day is fighting off anxiety about what the day will be like. It sucks but it is my life now so I got to live it.

Totally relate… #notalone

 

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@ThatFLGuy I agree that your issues are more severe than most on this forum. I know a few on here who have a life similarly as rough as yours.

 

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@ThatFLGuy Really hit the nail on the head. My current philosophy has been to try and find things I can do in my current state and to try and make the best of things rather than just waiting around for clueless doctors. Much easier said than done but it has made me feel a bit more positive.

 

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@ThatFLGuy

I can empathize with you about anxiety. I have a long list of health problems besides my overactive bladder. I just don't know which one is going to kill me.

It so happens that I am currently stressing about cataract surgery on August 31st. I lost vision in my left eye due to botched surgeries for a detached retina. So, if something goes wrong with this surgery...well, let's just say that I won't be posting here anymore.

I can understand your fears about SSD. I went through that struggle too, but I was much older than you are. I was about 57 when I had to take disability. I will be 76 this month.

My concern for you is that you sound like you are too young to depend on only SSD for the rest of your life. As you know, SSD income is based on how much you have earned BEFORE you start drawing from it. SSD was never designed to provide enough to live comfortably. So many people spend everything they have earned, but never invest or save anything. The statistics about this are shocking!

Since you are young, you have time to recover. I would suggest that you get some training in a career that you have an aptitude for, then do that for as long as possible. But don't spend all your money. Save as much as you can.

I pray that you seek God's mercy and guidance. ✝