Self identify

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A post by Honeycombs started me thinkiing about labels we put on ourselves sucb as Asbergers Autistic Borderline Personality disorder, Incontinent. Or Disabled.
I heard my nephew went to a college introduction where each student stood up and introduce themselves by a label. Ah Bisexual hetrosexusl or whatever. Gave me cause to realize we are responsible to CHOOSE or own label not accept what issaid of us.
Reading up on borderline personality disorder I realized the label I identify with is Service Providrr. J don't feel I exist unless can large part of my time is in service of others. As it is considered a moral value it is not pleasant to self indulge in those things only pertaining to my interest. So I'm working on rewriting the affirmation. I've done it before and it's like free falling from an airplane scary exhilarating....
Anyhow. I suggest you can be all the labels the ones that are negative in order you choose but to deal with life try taking stock of your worth and selfhood !asking a positive association with who you are.
Take the concept of victim and learn to flip each lsbel on its head and hear the opposite. survivor.
The worst curse i ever heard from an incontinent old woman was, "i hope this never happens to you.
Being dyslexic in thought I hard it meant as I hope this happens to you do you will suffer as I do.

 

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I take labels and make them empowering. Let’s take the label queer for instance. It sometimes is taken as a negative thing. I use it as a positive. I am a queer, trans, disabled incontinent amputee and proud!

 

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I hate labels.I know that me being autistic +dd and incontinent is open for some of it.

 

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I feel I expressed myself clumsily in the thread. A sense of self needs constant upkeep for some of us. I find it necessary to look for self generated affirmation of I am overwhelmed by the labels.i used to feel I did not exist unless I was actively serving others.

 

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Floyd R. Turbo

-- 'Merican

 

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Today this concept hit me hard. I got back to physical therapy today as I always have a schedule bump when I run out of already set days. Well, my PT kind of hit me hard today with the idea that this is not going away.

This was how she put it. "yea the muscles are trying to do what they should. Like just setting your hand on the steering wheel of your car versus white-knuckling it. But, Tom.. It is not changed in months even with the botox. On top of that if you were not on medication then it would be getting worse and worse."

That hit me because it is so true. If the medication were not there then the muscle damage would be getting worse.

My PT is messaging my GI doctor as well as my colon surgeon to let them know that though it seems like the botox has worn off the issue is very much still there seems to be going back to how it was and also that my ab muscles have gotten worse even with all we have tried.


So, I am a disabled, incontinent person that may not be able to hold myself up without some kind of support soon.

We did talk about that and the Idea of me using some kind of back brace or something but we have to look at that more.

 

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I look forward to the day when you can tell us I'm a disabled incontinent person but now I'm living comfortably living a good quality of life after all is said and done.

 

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Labels irk me. Maybe I should say: who has the right to apply a label to you or demand you apply a label to yourself, publicly? Seems to me we get restricted to one label, when we can be many. It clouds our thinking about ourselves, and so many of the labels can imply the negative. If you have to label, try to turn it into a positive with rewording, or whatever. Or just refuse a label.

 

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I think when I was coming from is the concept that self identify is like the hole in the center of a plain donut. Some people with nental health label have a empty open donut hole a sense they don't exist except by the labels the labels assigned. So to build a sense of self self label with kindness to ones self.
Someone with good self esteem the labels hit the exterior of the donut and don't penetrate the hole. For someone who has been diagnosed as borderline personality disorder, autistic, asberger the outer ring of donut is flimsy and can easily reach the hole.

 

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I’m a queer, incontinent, bedwetting, diaper user, among other things.