Long time friend straight up asked me about bedwetting

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One of my best friends is a guy I met 12yrs ago. We just hit off right away and have been friends ever since. Obviously one of the things back then was my bedwetting. He never judged me for it or held it against me.

Not long after we met, he joined the military and I moved. But we've never lost contact and have stsyed close. We try to meet up every 2yrs or so to hang out, schedules permitting.

We're coming up on a meeting next month and plan on spending 5 days together. We were discussing the rooming arrangement and he just went ahead and dropped the question on me "am I still having night issues?" I was definitely embarrassed and tried to play it off with "huh?" amd his answer was "wet beds?"

The last time we saw eachother was 2019. And I was definitely having issues then and wearing diapers. Obviously as discreet as possible, always under shorts or pants. But nonetheless he knew.

So when he asked me yesterday, I was definitely a bit embarrassed and kind of ashamed. But I was honest and told him the truth. Honestly...it was awful. I felt about 2" tall telling him about it.

But I guess the silver lining here is that he's a true friend. He knows I have the issues and knows about the diapers. But still, we're 35yr old guys. We shouldn't be having this discussion at all.

I guess Im still worth having as a friend.

 

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A good friend will always understand. Only one friend of mine knows and he has actually helped me so much on the confidence front.

 

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I am thinking he wanted to discuss it so that you know that he understands. He wants you to feel more relaxed and comfortable in your time together.

 

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In situations like close living situations or sharing hotel rooms I always let the other guy know. I’ve never had any problems doing that. When I was 13 I was confident no one knew I wore diapers to bed but a best friend that stayed over at my house a good bit flat out said one day, don’t worry about having to wear diapers, it’s no big deal to me. He never had any intention of telling anyone else and made me feel pretty relaxed about it. My older brother was always a jerk about it, always poking fun, and too many times threatened to tell my friends whenever we’d get in a fight over anything.
It was nice to have a friend that tried to make me feel ok about it.

 

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@Boopa0586 I agree with @thudson1965 I think your friend was just asking to be supportive and make you feel like it was no big deal. I am sure after you told him was was probably something oh cool, don't worry man.

 

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I know the feeling I have worn diapers from a very early age all my friends and family know about the diapers. It was hard for me to let my male friends know about them my female friends it was a lot easier but all very understanding about it

 

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You are worth having as a friend.

I think all of us - have a deep feeling inside of us wanting to be accepted for who we are. I think anybody going through medical problems is going to want people in there life that will accept them or can relate to them in some way shape or form.

Take the movie with Cole Sprouse about Cystic Fibrosis (I think that's what it's called) where the two met with the same condition and they had to stay five feet apart so that they wouldn't catch each other's bacteria. I think the movie is called 5 feet apart -

But anyway, the point I'm trying to make - is that the best help I have gotten is through here - during times when others have been ignorant or non understanding. But there are people who surprise us in our lives, on rare occasions - who will support us or want us to feep more comfortable in the bodies that we are in.

And that, is a true friend.

Blessings In Christ,
Honeeecombs

 

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From a different perspective, maybe he's having some of the same issues starting in his life and you would be his starting point for information on managing his new problem. Maybe he was trying to start a conversation and was a bit embarrassed about it from his point of view?
Just a thought.