I Can't Complain but Sometimes I Still do.

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Or "Would you like some cheese with that whine?"

First. I just got out of the hospital. The flu exacerbated my existing cardiac issues and they had to get my heart rate down and my blood pressure up. I'm better now even though my heart rate is still too high.

Second, being a part of this group has made me appreciate how minor my incontinence is compared to others. I just deal with unexpected and unfelt leaks plus some urgency. So it could be much worse as some of you well know.

I'm going to whine anyway, because a little whining is good for the soul. Just not too much.

I'm starting to leak from the other end. not just in diarrhea situations, but just normal days. I wipe and wipe and wipe and finally get some kind of semblance of clean and then two hours later I need to wipe all over again. No pooping in between nor feeling the need to, nothing.

Then the other day, a no poop day, my pull up had a big skid mark. Again not sensation or hint of needing to go.

In the big scheme of things, especially when I am dealing with a racing heart, this is not a big deal, but come on. what will my body think of next to pester me with.

 

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Squander, yes fecal incon is part of my day, and then it goes to impaction,, my PCP told me 5 days or sooner if I don't go,, then I must come in to see her, (I know what that means) but all this on top of the bladder gone wild. I get really tired of it,, so then she( PCP) has the magic pills to take ( Ativan) so I go to lala land and she told me have your naps with CPAP on!! lol

 

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Its Ok Man. You can vent here.
On another thought i wonder if heart meds caused a change.

 

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This has been going on for a while before this incident, but it would not surprise me if side effects of some med is the culprit.

 

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@Squander we all need a good moan sometimes and having some bowel issues myself on top of OAB, I can understand why you would want to moan a bit about this. Feel free to PM me if you need an online ear to moan to, cheers Phil

 

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Be happy, I know we all need to vent sometimes. I went to Al-non for a couple of years to cry and vent. It does a heart good. WE are do blessed to live in this country. Many of us try and do the best we can do. It just wasn't for the incontinence but my abusive marriage, my brain tumor-etc. I came form an alcoholic family and didn't know any better when I married him. My Father the alcoholic drove our poor Mother into the ground where she as a non person. She was tired and at least before the Lord called her home she got to see all her children married. Unfortunately they were all bad marriages. Not one of us a had a good marriage. Life is hard, lets us be grateful.
I met a very nice man who loves me very much and we are getting married Nov.20, 2019. This is a Wednesday and was my parents anniversary. He just got finish doing the dishes after we ate breakfast and we made some fresh blackberry pastries. He vacuumed the rugs for me. He is doing whatever I need done today. He is fixing my two screen doors. One just blew off from a storm. He went to Lowe's and bought the supplies to fix the doors. I mean new screws and news frames-etc., Not an easy job.
I drooped the top of the milk today and it rolled underneath the oven. HE took the oven pots and pans drawl out. WE cleaned that and then the floor from underneath and we cleaned it. He is so special. I met his neighbors last night and they all love him also. HE is their circle rep in their park. One of the gals who lives across the street said she will stay as Secretary as long s as my Larry stays the rep. HE is very special.


He leaks a little. HE is embarrassed by it. I think it is semen he is leaking and when he sees how tough and what others have to go through. HE is humbled by it. HE said he was embarrassed but now he will talked to the Doctor bout it. I think he can have some surgery and get what is wrong fixed hopefully without screwing my his equipment. HE has ED problems and feels so bad about it. He is 72 years old and expects to do things a 17 year old can do. Life is not like that and we all know that. I screw up my health sometimes with lifting. I am learning not to lift anymore and to do exercises-etc. WE all know your health is your wealth. HE never yells at me and he tells me all the time what a good job I am doing. Which is so nice.
I want you know , he did not read your posts. I just told him about them. Take heart that your stuff helps others. People don't realize what others go through, they have no idea. I know until I went to therapy for my problem -I had no idea how hard some people have it. I still have a little incontinence sometimes. I am blessed that with therapy I get help. I was so incontinent with the brain tumor-it was so embarrassing I could't go anywhere. I had no idea until the gals at my brain tumor support group starting talking about it that they all had incontinence. I know I feel so bless from some of the stuff I have seen you go through.
I am a christian and I believe that the Lord has a plan for each of our lives. I feel so blessed. I never loved anyone before like I love Larry. I want to be with him forever. If something happened to him I would not want to go on alone anymore. Life is too hard on your own as several of you know.
Thank You, you are all in my prayers.
Lord our father loves us all, we are his children. I look back at the abuse, I was struck in the marriage and I had no where to go. I received an annulment from the church and Larry was not married in the church before. He is so happy to be going to church with me and every morning we thank the Lord for his blessings of shelter, food, sleep,health care-etc. We ask the Lord to keep us free from accidents(car-falls-etc) during the day. Blessings to all of you and keep the faith. Remember one day we will be with the Lord and things are going to be better. Look at how the apostles died for Jesus. In my mind, no one would suffer like that unless there was eternity where things are good. Our bodies might turn to ash but our soul-spirit lives forever. Amen. Hugs and much love-Barbara

 

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Wow Barbara, You have said it all. So right you are. Such a good up right Catholic , like I was raised. My catholic faith inGod has helped me cope with some of my incontinence, but I have it real bad and have been looking for a good Urogynecologist near me which is two hours away.I quess I will try there.My incontinence get worse every year and I have tried everything. Excercises ,tibial nerve procedure and lots more. I use a Apex_M which has about a94% cure rate and it didn't do too much yet. IU think I need to find out if its nerve damage, oh well so much for that, but Barbara every time I read your feedback it makes me feel better, I am somnhappy that youn found someone to love. I am 69 and active with a nice husband of almost n47 years. Hes very understanding . Good luck in the coming years.

 

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Squander: Barbara (and you) said a lot. If this perspective helps, consider this. You shouldn't and can't compare pain. All pain is equal to the person experiencing it. Your pain is valid, never think otherwise.
So go ahead and vent. Sorrow shared is halved. That goes with Joy shared is doubled. The mathematics of Joy.

Speaking of venting. Can i scream if the spell-check, predictive text, and the stupid grammar check changes my meaning yet again? How many times do we have to go back and "change it back"?

There is a product that may help. Google "Butterfly" pads for anal leakage. Butterfly is the brandname, i think. Darned hard to find in stores. If the Mens is out, the only difference between the Mens and Womens is the color of the box and the tear-strip. There is at least one on-line pharmacy that carries them, but you need to order $50.00 or more to get free shipping, or sign up for auto-refill.

 

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Thanks Alas and Colin for responding-many blessings and remember this stuff is just stuff. We have an eternal life with the Lord. this body is only temporary-it is not forever, Our souls lives forever. Amen. Thank you Lord for your blessings.

 

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Well said Alas. Pain is a unique experience to each of us.

 

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Or "Would you like some cheese with that whine?"

First. I just got out of the hospital. The flu exacerbated my existing cardiac issues and they had to get my heart rate down and my blood pressure up. I'm better now even though my heart rate is still too high.

Second, being a part of this group has made me appreciate how minor my incontinence is compared to others. I just deal with unexpected and unfelt leaks plus some urgency. So it could be much worse as some of you well know.

I'm going to whine anyway, because a little whining is good for the soul. Just not too much.

I'm starting to leak from the other end. not just in diarrhea situations, but just normal days. I wipe and wipe and wipe and finally get some kind of semblance of clean and then two hours later I need to wipe all over again. No pooping in between nor feeling the need to, nothing.

Then the other day, a no poop day, my pull up had a big skid mark. Again not sensation or hint of needing to go.

In the big scheme of things, especially when I am dealing with a racing heart, this is not a big deal, but come on. what will my body think of next to pester me with.

Baby wipes and bathroom breaks. Trust me I know. You get that sweaty feeling down there and its time to clean up. If I dont I strat to get irritated down there and then it starts to hurt.

 

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When stools are firm, not a problem.

When stools are soft, definately a problem I think that the stool is not pushed out of the rectum ... and activity causes it to leak.

Reason I never use public restrooms for bm's unless absolutely necesary.

Alway stay away from raisins and black licorice.

I was very sick from intestinal bleed adn I though my stools were just black from eating black licorice.

Is this fecal incontinence? Or just poor hygiene?

 

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Is this fecal incontinence? Or just poor hygiene?

I don't think it's a hygiene issue since I am spending a lot of time and effort wiping and seem clean until hours later.