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So I am sitting at work waiting for my shift to start worried about how it is going to go. Have not received any answers as to what is happening and have not received any appointment for the next test (have not even been called to schedule it) and on top of that my short term disability ins requesting is still not done. They had to send me paperwork to say that The doctors can releases information..( done that five times already but all electronic signature so now they wanted an actual signature and faxed back. So now to wait again. I did find the form from Last time and have a blank copy so if it is not done by Wednesday I will be going and getting it done. I hate being back to work with how bad things are but I don't have a choice as I have no income without. I just want answers and the doctors are like no your second clean out worked so that is it until September. I'm like no now we need to know why this is happening and what we can do about the accidents. No one should have to work pooping on themselves with out an answer as to why.. yep 2020 sucks.
 
@ThatFLGuy I’m so sorry you’re getting such a run-around from your doctors, your disability insurance company, from work, and worst of all, from your own body.

There is a lot of ineptitude in medical offices these days because somehow even though they get paid now more than ever, they’re all stressed and over-worked. I worked in psychiatry and radiology from 1992-1997, and we never allowed things to slide like I see at most medical offices these days.

As for scheduling your next test, I recommend directly calling to schedule the appointment yourself. There’s no requirement for you to passively wait for them to call you. They usually don’t get around to things like that. In fact, they’re probably thinking you’re the one who is supposed to call them, and they’re waiting on you. I can’t begin to tell you how many times I was supposed to be called to schedule an MRI, a sleep study, or a surgery. I learned the best way to make sure things get scheduled is to proactively make the call myself - and sooner rather than later.

Also, I’d like to say I’m proud of you for going to work in your condition. You’re very brave and you will survive this. There’s an axiom that says something like, “Your brightest light comes from your darkest hours.” Even though it’s unimaginable that what’s happening to you these past few months will ever have a positive side, but eventually, one day you’ll look back on this moment and realize how many skills and lessons you learned from this disturbing, bothersome time.

Please keep letting us know how it goes.
 
Yeah man, that’s not a good way to be working but you’ll be stronger for it. I know that’s hardly a consolation
 
I do agree with @snow and @Benfrank that you'll be stronger and tougher because of all of this you're going through. To me it seems like you are a true survivor and that counts for a lot!!!
And if I were you I would definitely take the bull by the horns and call for an appointment. And it's like Snow said the only way to get results is to call them yourself and not wait for someone to call you! In other words, be the boss! You are paying them, so to speak, you are employing the doctors to examine and treat you. It's your call! But the main thing is you know you want to work and make a living. And you are doing what you can to make that happen. And what Snow said about the lessons and fortitude you have shown during this trying time was just beautiful! Very nice sentiments indeed! Keep on slugging through this and get through this and you will come out on top! My continued best wishes on finding out what's going on. Do let us know how we can help.
 
It is amazing how the quality on everything has gone down. The shortages of most products is not even realized until you go to buy something. I needed a new refrigerator, not available, finally found a floor model and paid excessive money for a Kitchen Aid piece of junk. It is all blamed on the China virus. Seems like that is the excuse for every thing.People that get paid if they work or not are choosing not to work or not be efficient.
Not that I blame them if you can get away with it and you have no pride.
I am afraid that the worse is yet to come. We need to get over these fears and get back to work before REAL DIASTER takes hold forever.
 
Well @Bobby103, you just hit that nail right on the head! Everyone and everything needs to have a great re-awakening or a real disaster will ensue and it will be impossible to get out of it! Any more it is so disconcerting to have an item that you've been buying for years and when you go to buy it all you find is just an empty shelf. And I read you loud and clear as far as declining quality goes. As an example my little townhouse's air conditioning unit that is about 37 years old. It is made by Trane and I have it serviced every six months or so. So far it has held up and performed beautifully. Only had some minor repairs such as replaced a capacitor. The service men who come out are amazed this unit is still ticking. One even took a picture of the builder's plate to show the folks back at work. They did warn me that someday the time will come! Well I understand that! Nothing lasts forever. I said "well, I'll just get another Trane!" A couple of the guys said point-blank that new ones won't last anywhere near as long as my unit. Reason being they just don't make them well anymore. I say it's planned obsolescence. And that is not okay with me!
 
I absolutely agree: appliances are now made like crap and absolutely with planned obsolescence, like all the rest of anything electrical or tech-y these days. For instance, my mom had an Amana refrigerator for 40 years with zero problems. Nine years ago it finally gave out and she got a new, high-end refrigerator. Just three (!!!) years later, she had to get *another* brand new refrigerator because something went wrong that cost the same amount as a brand new refrigerator! So she had two new fridges in less than four years, compared to her Amana that lasted 40 years.

Similarly, she had her original dishwasher for 40 years, but has since had to get two new ones in just 10 years. And she buys high-end products.

Last week she finally had to replace her washer and dryer, which were both 45 years old and worked so much better than any others I’ve ever used in my entire life! Her new machines are so complicated and obnoxious compared to her old ones.

Plus of course, new big appliances now take 60-90 minutes to do what her old appliances only took 8-30 minutes to accomplish.

I’m so tired of robotics/AI. I don’t want a touchscreen in my car. I don’t need digital navigation; I know how to look at, and memorize, an actual map before I go somewhere. I want push buttons and dials in my car, not a screen I have to stare at and think about just to get them to work, distracting my eyes away from the road. Knobs and buttons are easy to memorize and to use without even having to glance at them. I want a real key that I turn, not an auto start that decides when to unlock my car for me. I want to open my trunk using my much faster arm and a non-mechanized strut, rather than waiting for a slow machine to lift it and close it for me. And all the obnoxious beeping in the world today drives me nuts! The trunk door beeps while it’s opening and closing. Cars “think” they’re better drivers than are human drivers themselves. BEEP BEEP if you drive over a line on the road. BEEP BEEP if I get too close to another driver. If I do that, I know I’m doing it and it’s likely because I have to change lanes, park in a tight spot, etc. Non-stop BEEP BEEP BEEP if you (or anyone else in the car) take your seat belt off to quickly re-adjust the tension while you’re driving, as if I don’t know my seatbelt is off for two seconds. BEEPS when the refrigerator door is open, as if I can’t see with my eyes that it’s open. BEEPS when the dishwasher, washer, dryer, and microwave are done with their cycle and can’t stand waiting for me to open their door. Interruptions from the iPhone and laptops. Yes, I realize I can turn off the signal on some of this stuff. But it all adds up to a waste of my time and to noise pollution. The world is already plenty noisy without all the plethora of electronic noises that have overwhelmed our lives over the past decade.

So yep, “They don’t make ‘em like they used to!“

@Bobby103 Both my mom and my cousin (here in Utah) have had a challenging time in the past few months when trying to shop for appliances. My cousin’s giant, full deep-freezer went out in April, when few stores were even open at all. The only place she could find one was at a used appliance shop. So just know you’re not alone in your frustration with your search for a refrigerator.
 
Raise hell. Politeness apparently goes nowhere with these clowns. If something fails, don't keep doing what failed again. Try something else. Heck, report them to the Better Business Bureau.
 
I agree with AlasSouth. You’ve been too patient and too polite for too long with this situation. It’s time to complain and to take charge.
 
Hi @snow, your description of today's appliances and cars, etc., was absolutely priceless!!!! :D:D:D:D:D Really a fun read! I couldn't have said it better myself! And all of that beeping does get to be a bit too much, doesn't it! Andy, a friend of mine in Pennsylvania got a new Chrysler LeBaron one year and it, too, was a "technological wonder." The thing that tickled me was when he got in and started the car, a synthetic male voice said, "The door is ajar!" Andy would reply, "No it isn't a jar. It's a door!" As if someone isn't aware when a door is open? If they are in that bad a shape then maybe they shouldn't even be driving! And if your fridge has to beep at you every time you open the door, should you even be making dinner?:D:D:D It does irk me when someone closes or opens the tailgate on a minivan that you can't do it manually. The door just slithers down on that mechanized strut. If I had that type of car there would be times when I'd want to just slam that tailgate down and work off some frustration just for the hell of it!:O
Tell you one thing, though I once had a VW Beetle. You couldn't ask for a simpler, more user-friendly car! Sometimes the main belt would work its way loose and all it needed was a wrench to put the belt back in the groove and just tighten it up again. And then you were on your way! Can't do that with today's cars, no way! I now drive a used Impala. One day the driver's side window just slid down with a CLUNK! And there it stayed. Had to take it to the dealership and spend a couple hundred bucks :(:(to fix it. And if the car had just a good ol' hand crank it would have been so much easier, not to mention cheaper and less complicated. Can't have that today!!!:(:(:(
 
Hi @snow, me again. Reading your post here on modern gadgetry reminds me of the old column I used to write at The News Chief. It was called "Why Isn't it Yesterday?" I'd talk about some aspect of the deterioration of modern society, such as the way you described cars and fridges. And guess what? I have been looking at and memorizing maps for years myself. The column was a lot of fun to write and it ran every week (forgot what day of the week). I was encouraged to do this column by a wonderful editor, Rick Gunter. He loved the idea when I talked to him about and he always supported what I wrote and looked forward to seeing it every week. He was just that kind of an editor! Very few and far between. Boy, memories. Feeling nostalgic tonight!
 
Billlievehere and Snow. A new Ford (2019) has no lights (Headlignt, turn signals, brake lights, etc) that are owner accessible. If you didn't buy the warrentee or are over it, the shop hour fee is $110 per hour, minimum one hour. Used to aim my own headlight. I could sit on the fender with my legs in the engine compartment and work on my '62 chevy. Now? Don't make me laugh (or cry).
Some "aids" are helpful for handicapped. That trunk autoclose/open you have both hands full of groceries. The door ajar signal helps when the kids (grands) or wife didn't close the door right. Or me. My car doesn't ding, just puts a symbel in the dash. Ever left your headlight on and come back to a dead battery? I never did that again, anyway.
We used to laugh when a driver didn't lock the doors, but the little dog, jumping around, lunging at passers-by, would step on the electric "lock all" button on the driver's side. It was even better when the owner left the keys in the car. We kept a "SlimJim" around just for that. HeHeHeHe Or we teased the dog at the drivers window until he stepped on that unlock button. HaHaHa.
Swinn bikes? My generation all had them. It took being run over by a truck to total them. Now they are made in China and are so cheap, you get one for "free" when you buy a refrigerator. My wife's old one lasted almost 50 years. It blew me away when i figured that out.
Now, if only bladder control last like that! Are we a poor design or what?
 
No @AlasSouth, we're just human. Based on all the things we can do and have accomplished in human history, we are overall a very good design indeed! Made in the image of God, can't get much better than that! :)In the greater scheme of things, bladder control is really a comparatively minor kerfuffle!
And I need to thank you for opening my eyes here! :O You pointed out the real reason for trunks and doors that open and close automatically as well as cars that announce when the door is ajar or when you forget to turn off your headlights. Never even occurred to me. You are so right. :D I think that most of us walking around on our own two legs and living with our functioning brains take many things for granted.
 
@ThatFLGuy, I can relate. First plucked up the courage to see a doctor about my issues back in April and had a phone consult, was later referred to a urologist and had an appointment on the phone around couple of months ago (which was pretty useless). Have yet another phone consult at the end of September. I've also moved area so will have to get them to transfer me over which will add more time. It's funny, back in April I'd assumed that they'd do a flow test relatively quickly and was worried I had a surplus of supplies as everything would be fixed - how naive I was!

I also agree that it's frustrating that doctors don't seem in any hurry to get to the root cause of issues. I mean, sure I'm coping just fine using products but I don't want to be in nappies for the rest of my life if I can avoid it! Also, what I find frustrating is that doing a simple flow test would basically solve the big mystery of whether (without being too graphic or personal!) it's purely an anatomical issue causing my dribbling issue or whether it's a deeper issue related to my bladder. I mean, answering constant questions on the phone gets tiresome when a simple test could answer a lot of questions.
 
It just gets more unbelievable. First, offices who can't or won't complete the paperwork, then the lack of caring. They don't like to say "we don't know", or "we have no cure/answer".
Had 2 zoom appointments, but it was for routine stuff - blood pressure and glucose numbers - and the numbers were all in the green. The doc and her nurse were both as good as if in person. Unfortunately, she also told me she'd be leaving. You just find a good one and they leave. The local hospital has something seriously wrong with Admin - turnover is more than high. Word must have spread - they can't get permanent replacements. Don't have much choice, here.
Doctors & nurses have been dying from covid19. It's hard to blame them for wanted video appointments - except they should know when an in-person visit should be done.
You may need to shop around for a new doc.
 
Boy, @AlasSouth, doesn't it suck when you have a good doctor and then they leave? Since you're in S.E. Alaska, with virtually no road connections, I don't suppose it would be practical to go to where she is going.:( And I'm guessing you just have one local hospital. And with turmoil in the administrative suite it is the patients who end up suffering. I can see the validity of video appointments but I agree they should know when it's time to call you into the office for a check-up.
Sci Fi Fan, just keep pushing for that flow test. I agree that those same constant questions can get tiring, pretty old pretty fast!
 
South Central Alaska. 1 small hospital in easy drive. Don't get me started. Most doctors leave for America. My Neurologist did just sever her connection with hospital, stayed here, and go private. No change in billing, only moved 1 block.
Urology is an issue. At my support group's retreat, one year, the 2 doctors were from Anchorage. Doctor here was invited, wouldn't come The Ancorage Docs' attitude was so totally refreshing. They made a presentation, then sat around the campfire and answered questions and talked to us. It got pretty frank, out there!
 
Your support group had a retreat???? I've heard of support groups of course, but a support group retreat is something new for me. I feel that this forum is a support group and it has really changed me quite a bit already! It was cool of those doctors to come and talk to you by the campfire. And I can just well imagine how frank it got by that fire! I am not aware of a support group in my neck of the woods. Is Anchorage within a reasonable distance from you?
Sounds like that one doctor is a winner!
 
A support group (nothing to do with urology) I'm a member of has retreats. I don’t think any doctors in the lower 49 would have anything to with patients outside of the office.
 
The support group goes back to 2004; my cancer and chemo was 2003, down in Seattle. The hospital didn't organize it, but provided a room and the discreet PR. The retreats were made possible by a group from Anchorage - grants. The Docs were young. I got to 2 - we kinda made sure those who hadn't had a chance to go got first pick, and there was a ratio - so many from each community that wanted to take advantage. This was long before I discovered NAFC, but I think it was the group that told me. We met once a month, and once a week at a local grocery eating area. Come to think, the current and last 2 Governors and Admins and Legislature are definitely opposed to spending money on health care, much less a support group. Grants dried up.
Been a while and I've forgotten how & who got the Retreats going.
Our groups was like a lot of volunteer groups - over the years, too few were left to do the work. I was out of state for serious medical in 2013, and when i came back, the group was gone. One moved, one just stopped, etc.
They were held in tiny Cooper Landing, just after entering the Chugach mountains from the south on the Sterling Hwy, and before going up to the Summit Lake pass on the Seward Hwy. We got guys who were referred to us by various doctors & the hospital, and the notice in the paper's What's Happening article. Some of them were in shock, as the diagnosis was very recent, and they go helped much like a newbie on here. Virginia Mason Hospital in Seattle had one, more formally organized. Really big hospitals seem to do that sort of thing. We didn't talk near as openly about incontinence, but it was brought up; more at the retreats.
No reason they couldn't be organized where you are - hospitals might be willing. It didn't really cost the hospital to host the meetings - just lend us a room. A secretary answered the phone and told you when and where. Some better hsopitals have a "Patient Relations" division.
 
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